Dear Darla, One of the things that is likely lurking in the back of your mind is the prospect or possibility of never getting married. I say “prospect,” but perhaps a better word for it is anxiety ...
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No RomCom Ending
The Right Kind of Beauty Treatment
Dear Darla, Whenever we feel stuck in some place, the temptation is to think that we know and understand all the variables. We know that we are stuck, and we therefore assume we know why we are stuck. You notice your birthdays are continuing to go by, and you had assumed when you were a …
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Denhollender and David, and the Question of Rape
https://twitter.com/terrigreenusa/status/1546281243435843584?s=21&t=c5TA2Qyo18NPzGMiAcVO_Q Introduction: So another tempest has arisen, again, and it is once more over whether King ...
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Compared to What?
Dear Darla, Now there are some strategic and tactical implications of what I wrote in my last few letters. It is time for us to game some of this out. Let’s get practical—or a bit more practical in your thinking, at any rate. You are in your mid-twenties now, and so you may have noticed …
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Transactions and Covenants
Dear Darla, One of the hurdles that modern young women have to get over with regard to their thinking about marriage is the apparent transactional appearance of it. There is that surface appearance to begin with, and the plausibility of the charges leveled against it by the feminists have seeped into the backs of more …
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The Art of Attraction
Dear Darla, I alluded to this in my last letter, and I think it is time to address the art of attracting. We have covered what might attract you to him, and so now we should spend a little time on what might attract him to you. Some of what I am going to address …
Sounds Kind of Insurrectioney, Jane
Introduction: We are coming up on the release of the Supreme Court decision on Dobbs. In anticipation of that decision, quite a few people are bracing for real trouble. As they ought to be. ...
Laws of Attraction
Dear Darla, So let’s get down to the business of serious analysis. What are you looking for in a man? Because there is no man on the scene right now, this question of serious analysis, though you ...
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Staying Out of Cartoon World
Dear Darla, Okay, so now we are getting into some treacherous territory. This is an area fraught with peril, and one of the reasons it is so perilous is that we all, for emotional reasons, have decided to ignore and suppress a major facet of male/female interactions. The end result is that nobody knows what …
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On Avoiding Romantic Reverie
Dear Darla, In my last letter I talked about the surreptitious competition that women tend to engage in, as opposed to the “out in the open” competition that is preferred by men. Men tend to compete ...
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