The Right Kind of Beauty Treatment

Dear Darla, Whenever we feel stuck in some place, the temptation is to think that we know and understand all the variables. We know that we are stuck, and we therefore assume we know why we are stuck. You notice your birthdays are continuing to go by, and you had assumed when you were a …

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Compared to What?

Dear Darla, Now there are some strategic and tactical implications of what I wrote in my last few letters. It is time for us to game some of this out. Let’s get practical—or a bit more practical in your thinking, at any rate. You are in your mid-twenties now, and so you may have noticed …

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Transactions and Covenants

Dear Darla, One of the hurdles that modern young women have to get over with regard to their thinking about marriage is the apparent transactional appearance of it. There is that surface appearance to begin with, and the plausibility of the charges leveled against it by the feminists have seeped into the backs of more …

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Staying Out of Cartoon World

Dear Darla, Okay, so now we are getting into some treacherous territory. This is an area fraught with peril, and one of the reasons it is so perilous is that we all, for emotional reasons, have decided to ignore and suppress a major facet of male/female interactions. The end result is that nobody knows what …

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On Not Being Catty About It

Dear Darla, I told you in my last letter that guys are pretty straightforward. This is not to say that there are no complicated men, for there are, but taking one thing with another, guys are less complex than women. It can take a women some adjusting to get used to this, because underneath each …

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