Courtship and Sexual Baggage

Dear Darla, So it is very good that your father is putting Trent through his paces. I take it that apart from the central question of your last letter, everything appears to be going swimmingly? So let’s get to it. As to that central question, you raised the issue of his past porn use generally …

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Idaho and the Red State Grooming Festival

Update: Zions Bank has withdrawn from participating in the festival. Second update: Idaho Department of Health and Welfare pulled its sponsorship as well. Third update: The kids drag event for this weekend has been postponed to a “later date.” Fourth update: ICCU has pulled out. Fifth update: Idaho Power decided to withdraw. Dear J , …

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The Kill Switch and the Steering Wheel

Dear Darla, So in my last letter, I concluded with a reference to you meeting a genuine prospect, and I believe I even used the word “eventually.” And now your mother has informed my wife that ...

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The Rosetta Stone of the Sexes

Dear Darla, I want to spend at least a little bit of time talking about the nature of the differences between men and women. This is important because we have something of an optical illusion going, and it runs in both directions. If you were to travel to a foreign land, but one suitably exotic, …

The Right Kind of Beauty Treatment

Dear Darla, Whenever we feel stuck in some place, the temptation is to think that we know and understand all the variables. We know that we are stuck, and we therefore assume we know why we are stuck. You notice your birthdays are continuing to go by, and you had assumed when you were a …

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Compared to What?

Dear Darla, Now there are some strategic and tactical implications of what I wrote in my last few letters. It is time for us to game some of this out. Let’s get practical—or a bit more practical in your thinking, at any rate. You are in your mid-twenties now, and so you may have noticed …

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