Dear Darla, I hear from Nancy via your mother that Trent has proposed, and that you have accepted. So good job, everybody. Now we’re talking. If you will permit me just one more short letter, ...
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Wedding As Adornment
A Different Kind of Daddy Issue
Dear Darla, So I take it that things are getting a mite serious over there. Good for you. I trust you are smiling at him brightly? That apparently being the case, let me compare and contrast two ...
Courtship and Sexual Baggage
Dear Darla, So it is very good that your father is putting Trent through his paces. I take it that apart from the central question of your last letter, everything appears to be going swimmingly? So let’s get to it. As to that central question, you raised the issue of his past porn use generally …
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Love, Honor, and Obey
Dear Darla, So his name is Trent, is it? Lucky dog. This means that you are now going to be thinking through a number of the things I have written in the earlier letters, but now doing so in a very ...
The Kill Switch and the Steering Wheel
Dear Darla, So in my last letter, I concluded with a reference to you meeting a genuine prospect, and I believe I even used the word “eventually.” And now your mother has informed my wife that ...
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The Rosetta Stone of the Sexes
Dear Darla, I want to spend at least a little bit of time talking about the nature of the differences between men and women. This is important because we have something of an optical illusion going, and it runs in both directions. If you were to travel to a foreign land, but one suitably exotic, …
No RomCom Ending
Dear Darla, One of the things that is likely lurking in the back of your mind is the prospect or possibility of never getting married. I say “prospect,” but perhaps a better word for it is anxiety ...
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The Right Kind of Beauty Treatment
Dear Darla, Whenever we feel stuck in some place, the temptation is to think that we know and understand all the variables. We know that we are stuck, and we therefore assume we know why we are stuck. You notice your birthdays are continuing to go by, and you had assumed when you were a …
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Compared to What?
Dear Darla, Now there are some strategic and tactical implications of what I wrote in my last few letters. It is time for us to game some of this out. Let’s get practical—or a bit more practical in your thinking, at any rate. You are in your mid-twenties now, and so you may have noticed …
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Transactions and Covenants
Dear Darla, One of the hurdles that modern young women have to get over with regard to their thinking about marriage is the apparent transactional appearance of it. There is that surface appearance to begin with, and the plausibility of the charges leveled against it by the feminists have seeped into the backs of more …
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