On Not Being Mean

“But evangelicals—babes in the woods when it comes to this kind of thing—have confused the biblical requirement to not be mean with the impossible requirement to never be accused by liars of being mean. Once you accept the latter as your standard, you can always be steered, no matter how nice you are.”

Virgins and Volcanoes, p. 37

The Sin of Soft

“The modern evangelical church is effeminate. That is the problem. That is our besetting sin. When the apostle Paul rebuked the malakoi, the soft ones (1 Cor. 6:9), he was talking about the effeminate objects of sodomite lust. But that kind of softness can also trickle into bed with a girl. That kind of softness can remain heterosexual and can get institutionalized in the overarching directive to all faithful evangelicals, which is be nice and don’t be mean.”

Virgins and Volcanoes, p. 36