The Real Lesson

“Imagine a basic showdown scenario: suppose a toddler is standing at the coffee table right across from you and repeatedly wants to mess with the vase. Suppose further that the toddler has just gotten mobile and you have not childproofed the house yet, and they keep wanting to touch the vase. Too often, parents think that the lesson is entitled ‘How not to mess with vases,’ when the actual lesson is called “How not to get exasperated with other people.’

Why Children Matter, p. 88