Rigorous Grace

“The environment of your home should be full of grace. When you have a home filled with grace, it is not without standards. You are not introducing moral anarchy. Grace is not an amorphous, gelatinous mass. Grace has a backbone. However, when the standards are broken, the heaviest sacrifices in the work of restoration are made by the guardians of grace, not by enforcers of the law, finger-pointers, parental accusers, or people who correct in a nasal tone of self-pity”

Why Children Matter, pp. 20-21