In Which I Toss Another Cinder Block Into the Goldfish Bowl

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Well, you’ve gone and put your foot in it now, Wilson. Why, what have I done? It’s all very well to aspire to become the bad boy of Reformed letters, but there are supposed to be limits. But this piques my curiosity. To what might you be referring? Yes, you pretend to be ignorant, but you know very well what you have done. Well, yes, I actually do know. I did toss a cinder block into the goldfish bowl.

Is this what I am talking about? Or is it the opposite of what I am talking about? Oh, who's to say?!
Is this what I am talking about? Or is it the opposite of what I am talking about? Oh, who’s to say? It’s all so confusing . . .

As I mount the gallows and look out over the crowd gathered for the festivities, the chaplain accompanying the hangman asks me if I ever thought it would end this way. Well, kinda, I did, but to be honest, I hadn’t anticipated that it would be for believing that Christian women were prettier.

I have risen to praise Christian womanhood, and the forces of notsurewhatexactly have taken to Twitter to express their dismay, outrage, indignation, and deep concern. The alternatives to the views I expressed are basically that Christian women are uglier, or that they are exactly the same, or that they are prettier, but that my manners are exceedingly bad for mentioning it. This is going to be festive.

And blogs were involved also. Carl Trueman responded to me thus:

“So there you have it. That is Mr Wilson’s sophisticated take on the psychology of non-Christian women: they either aspire to be sex mad prostitutes or, failing that, turn into butch lesbians.

I guess he must be describing my mother because she is not a Christian — but I am not sure at what point in her life she quite fitted this description. I must have missed it. When she married, still chaste, at 20? Throughout her 46 years of faithful, devoted marriage to dad? When she patiently and lovingly nursed him through his long, final, painful illness, administering his meds, lifting him on and off the toilet, attending to his most basic and undignified bodily needs? During the years since his death when she has been faithful to the memory of ‘the only man I will ever love’, to use her phrase?

To be sure, she is not a Christian. She needs Jesus as her saviour. But I suspect the reduction of non-Christian women to whores or lesbians says more about the psychology of the writer than it does about my mother. And maybe other mothers too?”

Russell Moore took some time out of his busy schedule to link to Trueman’s response, along with an “Amen to this by Carl Trueman.” I forget. Is it easy or hard to get a Baptist to say amen?
In my initial post, I was going to have a whole section devoted to a defense of generalizations, for of course I know quite well that there are some non-Christian women who are prettier than some Christian women. I was going to do that, but then I ran out of time — my day has a habit of getting out of bed about twenty minutes before I do. So I was going to include it because I knew it was probably necessary, but the reaction I am getting tells me that a paragraph about generalizations would not have done much good. Let’s see if a few paragraphs do any good now. I am dubious because I like to string my words together into things called “arguments” and my adversaries generally string their words together into things called “outrage,” and this is results in interactions that are about as on point as that time we discussed whether Henry is taller than a pig is fat.

But Trueman knows how to argue, and the point he raises is worth answering, so here goes. The reply that Trueman makes would work equally well on any generalization, including all the good ones. If I said that men are taller than women, it is not to the point if he produces a sister who is half a foot taller than I am. The generalization remains accurate, and his sister remains taller than I am.

Let us try the Trueman method of evaluation when it comes to the rough treatment that Jesus gave the Pharisees. They were a highly respected group in Israel before Jesus trashed their name forever and ever. There were in fact Pharisees in Israel who were entirely worthy of their historic tradition. They were the ones that Jesus ignored as He undertook to blast all the whited tombs. There were some Pharisees who warned Jesus about an attempt on His life that time (Luke 13:31), and so to dismiss them all as blind guides tells us more about the psychology of the speaker than it tells us about the actual behavior of Pharisees under Second Temple Judaism.

But even taking my generalization as a generalization, understanding how generalizations work, was my generalization a reasonable one? Is a case to be made — even on the level of generalization — that the alternative to belief in Christ for women today is either to become easy skanks or angry lesbians? Sure, it is. The circulation of Cosmopolitan, the general outlook of which I was making fun of, is in the Millions. And what outlook, if not that of angry lesbianism, rules all the stupid decorum policies — you know, microagressions and all that crap — of virtually every college campus in America? And who cooked up that yes means yes foolishness in California?

Right. And so now my critics can’t believe I am making light of the rape epidemic — how dare I minimize the scourge of mistreatment of women? Fine. Let’s talk about that — and the fact I do have to talk about that shows how influential the angry lesbians are. Let’s talk about who actually promotes treating women like dirt. Can you say Random House?

How many copies of 50 Shades sold in America? How many million do you say? Oh . . . 100 million copies of mommy porn? How many adult women are there in America? About 160 million. So what is that? Approximately two out of three?

In short, the two alternatives I presented in my generalization are two groups of women that are widely influential, and whose members number in the millions. These two alternatives currently dominate the public discussion of what a woman’s role and identity should be, and I cannot get through a day without being confronted by multiple examples of them.

And this leads us, however circuitously, to a discussion of how such comparisons should actually work. I am very willing to acknowledge what Carl Trueman says about his mother — that she needs a savior, and that she is a very nice woman. If God’s common grace has already been bestowed on such a woman, is there anything that could make her lovelier? And if you postulate the plainest Christian woman ever, is there anything that could make things worse? If you started with the most beautiful pagan woman, would the addition of faith, hope and love not do anything? And if you started with a Christian woman who was not at all pretty, would the presence of bleak despair have no additional negative effect?

This is elementary. C.S. Lewis talks about it when he compares a jolly unbelieving man with a grouchy old Christian woman. He points out that we are not to compare him with her. He says that we are talking about what he would be like if he actually came to faith, and what she would be like if she had no faith.

Does the gospel of Christ do anything in the world at all? Does Trueman’s suspicion of transformationalism extend down into individual sanctification? The gospel does have an effect. There is an impact. And this was the point of the verses I cited — and I did notice that in all the responses to me, there has been precious little interaction with those texts.

“Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.” (1 Peter 3:3–6, ESV).

Christian women are here instructed to work on their loveliness from the inside out, and not, as the unbelieving women do, from the outside in. This is not saying that feminine Christian loveliness is invisible. It begins in an invisible place, in the hidden person of the heart. It starts with a gentle and quiet spirit, a spirit that has an imperishable beauty before God. A gentle and quiet spirit never needs Botox injections.

It starts there, but does not stay there. Peter is not saying that Christian women need not worry about adorning themselves for their husbands. Rather, he is teaching them how to do it. The way to make yourself lovely to your husband is by cultivating a demeanor of trust in God, learning freedom from fear, becoming beautiful before God, and then submitting to your husband, calling him lord.

Are you a staunch inerrantist and complementarian, secretly rooting for me in all of this? And yet, despite your secret support for me, you rather wished I had not ended the previous paragraph with those fatal three words, calling him lord. And I just did it again! I said it twice! At least the apostle Peter had the good grace to say it only once, and that in the midst of a passage he knew we were all going to skim over anyway.

Ah, so we have found the culprit. Christian feminine loveliness is directly related to that vile s-word, submission. Submission makes Christian women lovely, and a lack of submission does the opposite. So this is the very reason we must embrace what the apostle teaches. Our rejection of this glorious feminine loveliness is the root of our current cultural drift. We want to believe the Bible, but we want our faith to be the scratch and sniff kind. We want to believe what the Bible says without having to actually do what the Bible says to do.

It all comes down to this. Do you believe that the bride in a Christian wedding ceremony should have to promise to obey? Those who say yes are believers. Those who say no are unbelievers. I dare I call them unbelievers? Well, they don’t believe, right? And of course in saying this I am emphasizing the idea, not the mere inclusion of the word obey. The word might be present and the reality absent, and the word might be absent and the reality present (in alternative words).

Incidentally, the loveliness of submission is also the alternative to the fundamentalist rejection of all adornment, those who want plain for the sake of plain. There are some who whoop the word submission, but who reject the idea of adornment and loveliness, which means they are trying to obey the command of the apostle while fighting the logic of the apostle.

The grace of true submission is also the alternative to those who want to substitute “hot” for “lovely.”

Let us finish our instructive morning by taking a walk through the gallery of those who appear to believe that arguing for the loveliness of Christian women is teetering on the edge of a hate crime. In my defense, I will only say that I did it without employing the word pulchritude.

response by Dr. Carl Trueman to @douglaswils about DW bizarre & scary beliefs concerning non Christian women

Like the false report saying that all non-Christian women are sluts or lesbians?

The theology @douglaswils espouses is astoundingly backwards and misogynistic. Good Lord Almighty, save us.

it might be funny, if it wasn’t so incredibly hurtful and harmful.

right when you think he couldn’t marginalize and disqualify himself any more…he out does himself.

If first shall be last, @douglaswils patriarchal claims put him firmly in the category of “last” in the kingdom of God!

Doug, can you please reconsider/revoke this piece? Highly inflammatory/ offensive. Words like this hurt real people.

ironically I do not think he gets lumberjack dykes at all

Now this morning round-up would not be complete if I did not spend at least a paragraph on the tart rejoinder of @rachelheldevans.

“He calls women/ gay people ugly, demeaning names but his theology is good.” No. If he calls people ugly demeaning names his theology’s shit

So here is a golden opportunity to apply the golden rule to RHE. Should I take her statement the way she is taking mine? Should I take it as an exhaustive claim, extending all along the waterfront, such that if anybody, anywhere, calls anyone an ugly, demeaning name then that person’s theology is shit? But this would mean that RHE just called the Sermon on the Mount a very tacky name. For in that sermon our Lord said some things that some very respected theologians found to be hurtful. They didn’t think they were hypocrites at all, and the trumpet they blew on the street corners when giving alms was a gift to them from their dear, departed mothers, saintly women all.

Or should I simply allow her to make a generalization about some people — and I have met them too — who really do betray their orthodoxy by personal malice? Should I take her generalization as such, interpreting her words so that they do not include a condemnation of the Lord Jesus?

That would be nicer, and nice is the option I always try to go with.

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Bro. Steve
Bro. Steve
9 years ago

Fashion tip for aspiring female models everywhere: Develop the habit of leaving your mouth hanging open. (No, this has nothing to do with the article.)

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  Bro. Steve

Well, kinda it does — false standard of beauty and all that.

Valerie (Kyriosity)
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

“Close your mouth, please, Model. We are not a codfish.”

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago

One of the biggest reasons I usually don’t like Keira Knightly. :)

lloyd
9 years ago

All this bickering among Christians is enough to make me want to leave the faith completely. If it weren’t for a certain God-Man’s blood, I’m sure I would have left already.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  lloyd

Are you complaining?

Fr. Bill
Fr. Bill
9 years ago
Reply to  lloyd

If it’s the faith of those who are howling for Doug’s scalp, it were best for you to leave it as promptly as you can. Flee for your eternal life!!

lloyd
9 years ago
Reply to  Fr. Bill

Its the same faith. I used to go to church with Russell Moore. I’ve sat in his Sunday school class and under his preaching. I cannot overstate my respect for Russell Moore. Our wives were friends before he took a pastorate at another church. I just dont understand why he would do this, and there are many others. Then there are many who answer in kind. I dont understand that either. I would never run from the faith of a godly Christian man who I respect, but that doesnt mean I agree with all they say or understand their motives… Read more »

Nord357
Nord357
9 years ago

This is reminds me a bit of David Howard having to explain the word niggardly in the face of outrage. Not a precise analogy but still.

John Rabe
John Rabe
9 years ago

I found it rather telling that the first instinct of many of evangelicalism’s Cultural Commentators–to a column extolling the unique beauty of Christian women–was to howl in outrage and rush to the defense of the unbelievers. Explains a lot about how we’ve gotten to the place in which we find ourselves. If these are our complementarian friends, I’d hate to see the enemies. Or, more accurately, the enemies have very little to worry about. I’m not sure whose favor these cultural quislings think they’re currying, but they will find soon enough that the gains they thought they were making were… Read more »

Tim Bushong
Tim Bushong
9 years ago

Doug–you asked “Is it easy or hard to get a Baptist to say amen?”

Easy–just announce that, immediately following the revival meeting, an all-you-can-eat potluck is to be held in the Church basment.

Tommy Bohrer
Tommy Bohrer
9 years ago
Reply to  Tim Bushong

“My sermon has three points today, and they all start with M.”

josh
josh
9 years ago

Hmmpff. I wonder what sort of apoplectic fit they would have if you installed one of those “Real Men Love Jesus” bumper stickers?
“DW believes men don’t exist if they don’t love Jesus”
“Wilson thinks only men who swing axes and wear flannel love Jesus”
“Doug Wilson says men who wear pink polos don’t love Jesus! “

guester
guester
9 years ago

” The way to make yourself lovely to your husband…” Nice try of Doug’s to add the husband in here to try to make his article sound appropriate. But the assumed husbands of these lovely women appear nowhere in the original post, which contains only Doug’s roving eye. It is overtly about Christian women being pretty *to him* (Oh, and a token atheist, from Beverly Hills no less, to help prove his point). Doug’s post isn’t written in praise of the loveliness of his own wife, it is Doug Wilson in praise of (and conversely, in condemnation of) alot of… Read more »

Jay
Jay
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Totally agree. I have never even noticed whether a man or woman is good-looking. Except my wife. And then only after we were married.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Jay

Good on you Jay. ;)

Mike Bull
9 years ago
Reply to  Jay

Good thing you noticed she wasn’t a man.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  Mike Bull

Ba-boom

John F. Kennedy
John F. Kennedy
9 years ago
Reply to  Jay

I’m guessing that you are either kidding, or blind.

katie
katie
9 years ago

Jay’s comment was sarcasm.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Yeah it’s sooooooo creepy to notice that other human beings have outward appearances.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

That’s not what he said, Jane. He said he noticed their prettiness, which is a judgement/decision on his part about the nature of their outward appearance. If you want to say that’s okay, then do so, but don’t change his argument.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

If they’re pretty, and you notice their appearance, you notice their prettiness. That’s not so much “changing” his argument, as wondering why you think it’s a big deal to both notice something, and observe whether you find it pleasant or otherwise.

Agree or disagree that it’s normal and healthy to notice whether something or someone appears nice or not, but to make that into creepiness is just, well, creepy.

Gianni
Gianni
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

Don’t you guys just love the way people just keep trying to outsmart Jane on arguments involving the use of words? Cute.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

“why you think it’s a big deal to both notice something, and observe whether you find it pleasant or otherwise”

Your own separation of the act into two parts negates your assertion that noticing appearance and passing judgment on it are somehow the same argument. But nevermind, it’s a rabbit trail and not the main point of this comment thread, so I won’t engage with you further on it.

I do wonder, though, why you are unwilling to apply yourself to parsing Doug’s words as carefully as you do those of the mere commenters here.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

It’s precisely because I do parse them carefully that I notice the distinction between speaking in a generality, and saying, “All women are…”

But Tim’s already dealt with that one. You’re the one who doesn’t seem to realize it.

And of course noticing and passing judgment are two things, but they are two things that follow one from the other inhaling and exhaling. Nobody, but nobody, is free from doing that.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

So I assume you noticed his “either/or” language, which is not the language of a generality.

Gianni
Gianni
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Someone please tell Guester to stop digging his own grave.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

Jane Dunsworth exhibits Christian Feminine Beauty in her commenting. You are a very attractive Christian woman Jane Dunsworth. Your husband is a very blessed man.

Eric Runge
Eric Runge
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

Creeper.

Tim Mullet
Tim Mullet
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Genesis 29:17 is one of the more scandalous verses for the axiomatically schizophrenic.

“Leah’s eyes were weak, but Rachel was beautiful in form and appearance.”

If everyone is beautiful, then no one is beautiful. Beauty becomes a meaningless category. If it is wrong to notice beauty, then Genesis 29:17 calls God’s character into question.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Prettiness is a pretty objective thing.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

If that’s the case, then if any passing stranger doesn’t think I’m pretty, then my husband won’t think I’m pretty, either.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

No, it means that the stranger will either be right or wrong, and so will your husband.

Prettiness being objective doesn’t mean that random people’s opinions are correct, why would you even think it means that?

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

Because if something is objective, there can’t be an opinion. Things that are a matter of opinion are subjective.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

No, there can be opinions, and they can be wrong. Just because someone thinks that they can have a valid opinion about something, does not make the opinion valid, and does not mean that their opinion is not actually either right or wrong. I could have an opinion that politician X is a trustworthy person, but if he actually is dishonest, that would be objectively false, and my opinion would be wrong, even though it’s something that everyone thinks they can have an opinion about. Of course some things are merely subjective (whether asparagus tastes good) but the mere fact… Read more »

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

Actually, yes, it does. Objective truth: I am a woman. Am I pretty? That depends on who you ask.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

No, the *mere existence* of differing opinions does not make something subjective. Look again at my example. “In my opinion, Bill Clinton is an honest man and a good husband.” I just expressed an opinion different from that of most sane people. Some less sane people will actually promote that opinion. Does that make it not objectively true that Bill Clinton is a liar and an (apparently unrepentant) adulterer? We can disagree on whether a woman’s “prettiness” is objective or subjective, but it’s not subjective simply because two people might have different opinions on it. It’s only subjective if it’s… Read more »

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

Jane, if “honest man” admits to various definitions, which it probably does, then it is subjective. When you get right down to it, there’s none of us who is honest 100% of the time. We all draw the line somewhere, as to when we will or won’t lie, and we draw it in different places. Is there such a thing as objective truth? Absolutely. Besides Jesus, has there been a human being who’s told the objective truth one hundred percent of the time? Not a chance. Then is the term “honest man” meaningless? No. It means different things to different… Read more »

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

But someone who viewed adultery as no big deal would be objectively wrong because God said it’s a big deal, and it’s always wrong. The question isn’t whether it’s better or worse than some other kind of objectively bad behavior; it’s whether it’s objectively defined as bad. Anything God defines as bad, is objectively bad. I see now that you aren’t just defending the idea of physical beauty being subjective, which is not an unusual position and I’m not entirely convinced is wrong; you are calling all kinds of things subjective that God has clearly called objective. So I don’t… Read more »

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

Fortunately that is not true. Men tend to see the woman they first fell in love with, even after much of her outside beauty diminishes. Also, if she exhibits the loveliness that comes from walking with Christ and endeavors to serve her husband and be a blessing to him, then there is a good chance that her husband will continue/come to see her as beautiful. “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your… Read more »

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

How does that square, then, with prettiness being objective and not subjective? My husband tells me I am pretty and beautiful. That’s enough for me, which is a good thing. Objectively pretty I am not.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

Maybe you are objectively pretty by a different standard than you are used to using.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

Maybe pretty is just subjective. Which would be very nice, because that way, if a woman isn’t pretty to person A, she might be to person B.

katie
katie
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

But if it’s objective, if a woman isn’t pretty to person A, there might be something wrong with his eyes.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  katie

Or his standards, which is where this all starts, I think.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

Prettiness is objective in terms of an impartial observer. Your husband loves you which magnifies the qualities about you that are objectively beautiful. If you have been together for a while, his brain probably also remembers the way you used to look when he first fell in love with you. If you are both living for Christ, that magnifies your prettiness, even to an impartial observer.

guester wrote that Doug Wilson was being creepy. That is nonsense. Men notice what is in front of their face. There is no reason to assume Doug Wilson was being inappropriate.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

“Prettiness is objective in terms of an impartial observer.”
That doesn’t make any sense to me. Different people have different tastes. I think you are taking your view – “I like what I like” (which you share with the rest of us) – and trying to turn it into some kind of universal truth.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

This is hard to explain to a woman. Men have preferences, but given a large enough group of men those preferences just become background noise. That is to say we find that most men more or less agree on what they consider pretty. This suggests objective standards of aesthetics governing prettiness. An impartial observer would be one who recognizes these general standards without throwing his own preferences into the mix. That joyful, peaceful, bright-eyed feminine look a lot of older Christian women have is something most men find attractive, which adds to those women’s overall prettiness. Take three pictures of… Read more »

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

A lot of words, but no. There just is no universal standard for what constitutes pretty. And if there were, some of us would be out of luck ever being attractive to a man. You think there is no woman living an abandoned life can find men who think she’s pretty?

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

Outliers exist, but their existence in no way contradicts the existence of objective standards.

Mari Adams
Mari Adams
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

guester, Your finding an innocent and exulting comment on the beauty of Christian women creepy, seems creepy to me . . .

Mike Bull
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Doug is simply saying that Christian character is an element of physical beauty. Holiness makes people attractive, women doubly so. Your comment is stupid.

Matt Massingill
Matt Massingill
9 years ago

LOL, maybe it’s time to give “In Which” it’s own category. “Filed Under/Tagged With: Engaging the Culture; In Which”

Rob Steele
Rob Steele
9 years ago

No fair stealing your enemies’ hermeneutic.

guester
guester
9 years ago

“The alternatives to the views I expressed are basically that Christian women are uglier, or that they are exactly the same, or that they are prettier, but that my manners are exceedingly bad for mentioning it. ” Doug seems to love the false either/or. Far from being a “generalization”, it is actually a well-known logical fallacy called the false dilemma or the false dichotomy, of which his “unbelieving woman as easy lay vs lumberjack dyke” is a most egregious example. In the above quote, he presents another, ignoring additional alternatives, such as not using comparatives like better/less than or prettier/uglier… Read more »

Tim Mullet
Tim Mullet
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

All generalizations are statements of general truth which are fallacious, in one way or another, if absolutized.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Tim Mullet

The false dilemma is a very specific and well-known logical fallacy, Tim. Look it up instead of generalizing about generalizations.

Tim Mullet
Tim Mullet
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

One of the characteristics of a fool is the inability to generalize. The book of Proverbs is a book which is designed to teach us wisdom. What is wisdom? In the Proverbs, wisdom frequently comes in the form of “statements of general truth.” If you attempt to absolutize the Proverbs, you will find that many of these statements are not always true, namely they admit exceptions. Exceptions however do not disprove the general rules. A wise man will make good generalizations about the world, but will realize that his generalizations are not to be taken as absolute rules. Your same… Read more »

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Tim Mullet

“Your same critique can be leveled against the whole book of Proverbs.”

Ummm, not so, Tim. That’s a statement that is illogical on its face. The whole book? Really? How about

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding”
or
“”Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him.”
or
“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding”

Your argument doesn’t even rank as a fallacy, it’s just wrong.

Tim Mullet
Tim Mullet
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Hehe…

I’ll place several quotes in order and rest my case.

Tim: “One of the characteristics of a fool is the inability to generalize.”
Tim: “Your same critique can be leveled against the whole book of Proverbs.”
guester: “Ummm, not so, Tim. That’s a statement that is illogical on its face. The whole book? Really?”

My work is done here.

St. Lee
9 years ago
Reply to  Tim Mullet

Tim scores, for the win!

DCHammers
DCHammers
9 years ago
Reply to  Tim Mullet

Guester is left bleeding in the street.

Steven
Steven
9 years ago
Reply to  Tim Mullet

Maybe someone needs to explain the fallacy of the false dilemma to guester.

Jay
Jay
9 years ago
Reply to  Tim Mullet

“One of the characteristics of a fool is the inability to generalize.”
So true.

Webster
Webster
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

If you think he offered a false dilemma, then say what other options there are, don’t just say that he could have avoided the subject.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Webster

Read my comments above, Webster. I did indeed offer another option, and compared to the statements by C.S. Lewis.

Webster
Webster
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

> such as not using comparatives like better/less than > or prettier/uglier than at all Your “another option” is to not make the comparison at all, as I previously stated. The format of his argument is logically valid: it is not a “false dilemma” fallacy. If what you are trying to say is that the very concept of comparing the prettiness of Christians to the that of non-Christians is inherently irrational, then that is a different type of argument, and bringing up the “false dilemma” is itself a logical fallacy known as a “red herring”. Your description of his “most… Read more »

Antecho
Antecho
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Guester, the Either-Or Fallacy only applies to the Either Or statement if the statement is intended to be (1) absolute and (2) if there is actually at least one more option than what was presented. Why would you not allow as true Doug’s clarification that he didn’t postulate that every single (vs. some) unbelieving woman has loose sexual morals among either men or women? ‘Unbelieving women are X’ implies (1) Some set of unbelieving women are X Or (2) Absolutely all unbelieving women are X, Where X consists of an Either-Or construct or does not consist of an Either-Or construct.… Read more »

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Antecho

Because Doug explicity used the either/or language of a dilemma in the original post. His afterthought (after being called out for his statements) is that he was generalizing, even though he didn’t use that language originally. That requires us to simply *believe* that his intent was different than his language. I don’t believe that.

andrewlohr
andrewlohr
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

‘Let each bear his own burden’ (Gal 6:4) is an exhortation to avoid comparisons?

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  andrewlohr

You’re quoting Galatians 6:5. Verse 4 says “But each one must examine his own work, and then he will have reason for boasting in regard to himself alone, and not in regard to another.”

Ty
Ty
9 years ago

haha its funny how defensive you sound here.

Ty
Ty
9 years ago

Man, I am so thankful for guys like Russell Moore and Carl Trueman.

Jay
Jay
9 years ago
Reply to  Ty

I am too but I don’t agree with them here.
Dr. Trueman holds very strongly that women should not hold office in the church. But he otherwise seems to avoid having an articulated theology of gender (based on MoS and the ITunes U lectures that are available… and amazing).
It’s too bad because he’s very insightful usually and I’d love to hear what he’d have to say.

josh
josh
9 years ago

Some 20 years ago I was in Ukraine strolling down the street on a Sunday. I started noticing several groups of very attractive people, men and women. These people weren’t wearing anything much different than the rest of the public and I couldn’t even put my finger on what gained my attention about them. After watching for a moment though I did notice that these various little groups did have one thing in common. They were either walking into or out of church. Over the course of my stay there I noticed that the people with life in their eyes… Read more »

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  josh

If a dead woman walks into a room, can you tell, sometimes?

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

Dead in sin? Yes, absolutely. It is disquieting and sad.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  josh

Some 20 years ago I was in Ukraine strolling down the street on a Sunday….
That is an expressive line..

Some of my favorites (they tend toward film-noir-ish):

The rose room bled light (Fitzgerald)

In the Winter of my twenty-first year I set out on horseback to slay a pack of wolves… (Rice)

guester
guester
9 years ago

“This is elementary. C.S. Lewis talks about it when he compares a jolly unbelieving man with a grouchy old Christian woman. He points out that we are not to compare him with her. He says that we are talking about what he would be like if he actually came to faith, and what she would be like if she had no faith.” This difference between Doug’s argument and that of C.S. Lewis is that the latter didn’t posit that the world was composed of either jolly unbelieving men or grouchy old Christian women. C.S. may have been generalizing, but he… Read more »

Monte Harmon
Monte Harmon
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

You seem to have missed the point entirely. And I’m not foolish enough to teach you.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Monte Harmon

If this were a rowdier blog, people would be calling him aspie by now.

Leah Atha
Leah Atha
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

Aspie? As in Asperger’s?

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Leah Atha

Yes.

Sarah
Sarah
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

Dare I ask why?

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Sarah

cuz aspie gonna aspie.

Sarah
Sarah
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

Why on earth are you bringing aspergers into this?

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Sarah

Some people exhibit patterns of thought that are hyper-logical to the point they cannot communicate with regular people. They do not understand rhetoric, hyperbole, or figures of speech. They interpret everything through the lens of formal logic (which many still manage to get wrong). These types of people have become so common on the web, that terms like ‘sperg’ and ‘aspie’ are used to describe them and warn others: P1: All that glitters is not gold. Aspie: Gold glitters. How can Au not be Au. P1: ? P2: What he is trying to say is that not everything that glitters… Read more »

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

But you do agree that unbelieving women are spoiled / broken & dead on the inside?
And you’re saying that’s something you just can’t see sometimes?

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago

“As I mount the gallows and look out over the crowd gathered for the festivities, the chaplain accompanying the hangman asks me if I ever thought it would end this way. Well, kinda, I did, but to be honest, I hadn’t anticipated that it would be for believing that Christian women were prettier. ”

I think one my favorite parts of a DW reframe or distract post, is the slathering of complex of self-pity and persecution sauce.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Yes, he is so convinced of his victim status, while admonishing true victims, including those of sexual abuse to not take it as their identity! But with Doug it’s all tongue-in-cheek of course. He is jesting. Of course! And yet he must remind us…..every time….of how set upon he is by “enemies”. Though he pays them no mind, of course (of course!) he must tell us about them again, and again, and again….

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

It is also a clever mirroring of the Jesus story, meant consciously or no to appeal to the american christian persecution myth. Substitute ‘cross’ for ‘gallows’. Rather narcissistic either way.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

He’s also fond of a peculiarly Christian logical fallacy in which he sets up a false similarity between his words and those of the Saviour. Even though Jesus never did and never would say what Doug actually said. The worst example in this post is the comparison of his words about women to Jesus’ words about the Pharisees. Ignoring, of course, that Jesus was speaking (a) to men (b) to men who held power over others, women and men alike and (c) calling them out for abusive and hypocritical religious practices, not their physical appearance and (d) rebuking them from… Read more »

Kevin Bratcher
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

What a fine duet of slander and calumny you two perform!

If only you’d take it to the alleys of some distant street, where it belongs.

Mike Bull
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Doug was just explaining generalisation for those who didn’t get it. Seems you still don’t. He is saying that faith is part of beauty, which might be why RHE has an unmistakable ‘harridan’ vibe.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Mike Bull

Doug’s language in the original post was clearly the “either/or” of a false dilemma, not of a generalization. NOW he’s saying he was generalizing, in order to explain (cover?) himself. You obviously believe him. I don’t.

Rick Davis
Rick Davis
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

It seemed pretty clearly to be generalization to me the first time I read it. Maybe I’m just not reading with the particular intent to find fault in any way I can.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Rick Davis

The language of generalization is “all, everyone, nobody, always, never”. Either/or is the language of a dilemma. It is certainly a well known distinction in logic and rhetoric. People can engage in this fallacious reasoning even without an either/or to telegraph its presence, but Doug made it too easy. He of course frequently engages in generalizations as well, and they have their own pitfalls of logic! But this was an absolutely classic example of the false dilemma fallacy, which is defined as presenting two options (generally opposing options) as if they are the only available alternatives (i.e., unbelieving as either… Read more »

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Please stop it. I am starting to feel sorry for you and that just sucks all the fun out of the room.

Tim Paul
Tim Paul
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

It’s so touching when a couple SJW”s get together and serenade each other in a emasculated version of Kumbaya. Prescious for all of us to witness this creepy perverted side show

ashv
ashv
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Like your namesake, it’s pretty obvious you have no sense of humour. :)

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  ashv

What is the dis here w my name? Don’t get it.

And of course my humorless bad. The clown crying on the inside.

Tim Paul
Tim Paul
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Randman, I see you commenting elsewhere on Drudge. Why are you here? Is it too stroke your pride? You won’t convert anybody here that isn’t already on the road to perdition, and your pied piping leading them there. You really should pray for the gift of repentance.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Tim Paul

Tim Paul, why must I convert anyone? That is an evangelical preoccupation. As is judging others. Oh, and offering unsolicited advice on the nature of their souls.

andrewlohr
andrewlohr
9 years ago
Reply to  ashv

Not Ayn Rand’s strong point, but a fan once told her, You write such wonderful sex scenes; what is their source? Rand: Wishful thinking.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago

“This works as a distraction because he then makes a big show of correcting the people who inevitably draw the conclusion that he’s being pretty insulting to women. Because, you see, he’s not insulting all women. He’s just insulting some women. He pats himself on the back for thus schooling the masses in logic.”

http://kbotkin.com/2015/09/23/why-men-who-submit-to-authority-are-prettier/

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Ha! Doug needs some schooling in the logical fallacy of the false dilemma.

Frank Turk
Frank Turk
9 years ago

I had no idea that Rachel Held Evans was now running the Twittersphere.

It’s a fine day for it, anyway.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago

Spit Take Of The Day: “That would be nicer, and nice is the option I always try to go with.”

holmegm
holmegm
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

The funny part is that he actually does.

He’s taking the time to explain some really simple things, and with humor and verve. He could just call them stupid and be done with it.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  holmegm

Calling b***s*** on that one.

MarkL
MarkL
9 years ago

I don’t think this would have caused as big a stir if Doug had said, “a woman who believes and follows Christ is prettier than she would have been if she had not.”

And there seems to be some reponding to the notion that all Christian women are prettier than all non-Christian women. Something which Doug did not claim.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  MarkL

It’s the brittle, ungenerous, narcissistic, controlling and anti-woman small-mindedness that fuels this nonsense here. Then of course the jaw-dropping double downs. Because the ideas he is putting forth are simple-minded and dismissible. They are really a vehicle for the bubbling stuff underneath and that is what people are so passionately responding to. With his every utterance, I can feel the underlying anger he has toward women, his frustration with control and that things aren’t his way in this life. Then these posts where he fantasizes himself up on a gallows… I mean, come on. This snake is eating his own… Read more »

Jay
Jay
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

“With his every utterance, I can feel the underlying anger he has toward women, his frustration with control and that things aren’t his way in this life.”
I don’t know you RandMan but it’s time to take a nice long break from the internet.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Jay

Why? I feel those things in his writing. I have been on the internet too long if I am capable of an opinion on the subtext of a writer… of opinion? dumb.

Steven
Steven
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Why? Maybe because with every one of your utterances, people might start to get a similar “feeling” that you’re harboring an underlying anger towards Wilson, and get a sense of your frustration with control…etc.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Steven

ah yes, the old: “No, you are!” move.

As I have stated elsewhere, being passionate in response to someone’s demeaning of others is quite different from anger.

I am not trying to control others behavior by way of righteous judgement, passed ‘with love’, and buttressed by whatever scripture I can summon. How can any truly thoughtful christian miss this part, then cry foul when someone points it out?

Oh, yeah, much easier to cry: Bitter, angry, gossip, slander. I forgot.

Steven
Steven
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

All I can do is give my read on the situation based on how I see it, and you seem to me to be flailing about with a lot of self-satisfied bluster and frustrated protest. But, hey, if you’re enjoying yourself, don’t let me stand in your way.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Steven

What is the bluster part exactly steven? My protests are far from frustrating. I protest bad ideas and demeaning of others, especially in the name of jesus. Merely to plant a seed of different though for someone railroaded by the freight train of behavioral control propogated around here is enough for me. Please, keep crying anger and bitter. That code might work to silence your brethren, but not me. So, I have repeatedly called out Douglas for exactly three things: His awful position and handling the the sexual abuse case of Jamin Wight. His awful position and handling of Steven… Read more »

Tim Paul
Tim Paul
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Your mother needs to take away all your social media devices, stat.

MrsMac
MrsMac
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Wow, as a woman, I feel the complete opposite as you regarding Pastor Wilson’s writings, as for you, I feel very unsafe around your kind.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  MrsMac

How fortunate, then, that this is the internet! It’s not like he can come through the screen, MrsMac. I’m sure you are quite safe.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  MrsMac

My kind… okay.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  MrsMac

You, as a woman would be well served to really ponder what pastor Doulas thinks about ‘your kind’.

MrsMac
MrsMac
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

I am very well aware of what Pastor Wilson thinks about about women.

John Rabe
John Rabe
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

C’mon, Rachel, you don’t need to hide behind a pseudonym.

Rob Steele
Rob Steele
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Harsh. Wish you would refute an argument or at least show that you understand it before you attack the arguer.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Is it gross to think dead women generally appear less beautiful than the living?

andrewlohr
andrewlohr
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Do I feel your (7 or so adjectives omitted) underlying anger here? Jesus Christ died for sinners without feeling bitter about it. Turn to Him.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  andrewlohr

Ahhh yes, tarred w the bitter brush. Listen AL, We can discuss w/o the bitter, slander, gossip code. Not angry at all. Discriminate between passion for a topic and anger.

Anger creeps in w Doug’s mistreatment of sexual abuse victims and failure to protect children but not here. I am passionate about human rights and people not trying to control others.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

And avoiding spiritual matters in conversation!

Jael
Jael
9 years ago

Lol. Doug, you so silly!

guester
guester
9 years ago

Is it true that Doug has never been ordained? Does anyone know?

Nord357
Nord357
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Where did that come from?

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Nord357

I’d simply like to know. Ordination isn’t some big secret.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Nord357

Hmmm….in spite of the plethora of people that want to argue with me that the logical fallacy of the false dilemma doesn’t apply to Doug because he was generalizing (He said so himself! So it must be true!), nobody is touching my question about his ordination. Interesting.

Nord357
Nord357
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Where did you come by your information?

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Nord357

I provided a question, not information. But it’s certainly within the context of seeing the multiple denominational censures against Doug, here:

https://web.archive.org/web/20060716041948/http://terrymorin.com/censures.html

With that many censures, I’m simply wondering who ordained him.

Nord357
Nord357
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

“Is it true that Doug has never been ordained?”

Are you representing to me that the above is not a claim to have obtained information?

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Nord357

I had no idea whether or not Doug had actually been ordained. But PerfectHold has now cleared that up for me, thanks. You’re late coming back to the discussion. If you have anything to add, please do.

Nord357
Nord357
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Thanks,

Time zones and schedules have a way of doing that betimes.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

I don’t know. I don’t care. Was St. Peter ordained? St. Paul?

Given the product I see in Christian 501(c) Churches, the Gospel seems better served by a dropout, if in fact that is what Pastor Wilson is.

ashv
ashv
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Is it true that guester kicks puppies for fun? I don’t know myself, just asking.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  ashv

ashv, shouldn’t you be somewhere defending the concept of lynching or something? Seriously, just funnin’! Good to see you again pal!

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Is it true Jesus was never ordained?
Nor Paul?
My goodness, are we being led by a bunch of outlaws?

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

So….you’re comparing Doug to Jesus and Paul? Does he rank there for you?

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Yes.
From what I’ve heard, all pastors are supposed to rep Him.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

So, like performing miracles and rising from the dead and stuff? Or dying for other people’s sins? Do pastors do that?

At least this explains why some here see Doug’s words as infallible. I’d been wondering about that.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

They, like, preach His word in His stead and then some folks, like, rise from the dead.
Yes.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

Ah, clever substituting the metaphoric for the real. But I don’t buy that. Jesus rose *literally* from the dead, in body, and Lazarus, too, was raised in the flesh. Show me a pastor who does that. And then answer the question about whether Doug is ordained instead of changing the subject.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Not metaphor — real real — just unexperienced as yet by you, if I’m guessing right. So you can be forgiven your inability to notice / acknowledge / identify and see these occurrences right in front of you. Recall that Jesus said, while Lazarus was “dead” using your terms, that he was not dead but sleeping. — just a hint for you about how Jesus Himself saw life in a believer. Regarding ordination, Doug was “officially” ordained by the folks there at the Moscow church. But if I may say, that didn’t do squat. The ordination He received from Christ… Read more »

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

Thank you for answering my question PerfectHold. Though your *guess* at whether or not I’m a Christian is wrong. I’m a devoted and practicing follower of Christ. And though I agree with you on the importance of the resurrection of the soul, it is in fact not the same as the resurrection of the body. Which is one of the many ways in which Jesus is utterly unique, and why we should not rank the words of mere mortals like Doug Wilson with those of the Son of God.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

… unless he is speaking the Words of Jesus or the thoughts of the Father.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

And how do you know when that is the case, PerfectHold? When is Doug speaking “the Words of Jesus or the thoughts of the Father?”

All the time? Just when he is in church? When he is blogging and tweeting?

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Takes one to know one.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

I feel confused by this statement. It makes it sound as if you yourself are either Jesus or the Father and that’s how you know Doug is speaking their words. But I’m sure that’s not your claim, so do please clarify.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

He that hath ears to hear, He says.
Does that mean you have to have Jesus’ ears? — yes, you have to be given a type of hearing only He can give.
Jesus speaks now and then through pastors and laymen and such, and it is the responsibility of those who are His sheep to acknowledge when this is the case.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

But again, how do you know when this is the case? To use a specific example, do you believe Doug was speaking the words of Jesus and the thoughts of the Father when he said “Unbelieving women either compete for the attention of men through outlandish messages that communicate some variation of “easy lay,” or in the grip of resentment they give up the endeavor entirely, which is how we get lumberjack dykes. The former is an avid reader of Cosmopolitan and thinks she knows 15K ways to please a man in bed. The latter is just plain surly about… Read more »

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Two good questions you ask.

How knowest thou? — the same way anything can be known — by virtue of given insight.
The thing known must have a channel into the knower.
Color receptors must be there and working to see the silver.

Second — does Doug speak Jesus’ thoughts with that quip on laymanship?
Unfortunately, yes.
Maybe a bit crudely, for effect, but yes.

Easy Lay = accepting anything less than God’s given standards for best human coupling and need fulfillment which is either or both a form of usually mutually agreed upon immature reverse rape, or prostitution.
Unfortunately.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

I am very sad to hear that you think those are Jesus’ thoughts, PerfectHold. He never said anything of the kind to the women he met while on this earth, though he came in contact with those (the woman taken in adultery, the Samaritan at the well) who someone like Doug would call an ‘easy lay’. If Jesus didn’t choose those words then, why would he choose them now? Instead, he said to the women taken in adultery: “Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.” (John 8:11) and to the woman at the well (who had five… Read more »

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Not yet for you.
Keep on reading the ones you acknowledge now though, and I’ll do the same.
I’m sure we’ll get a better bead on this as time goes on.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

I will certainly keep reading Scripture. That’s enough for me.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

The process of Sanctification is Him transforming us into His likeness.
The fruits of the Spirit, which Pastor Wilson exhibits , are evidence of God’s work.

Surely Christian, you sense other Christians without even speaking to them? Complete strangers know God is in you. Why then should we not sense the work of Christ in Pastor Wilson.

andrewlohr
andrewlohr
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Spurgeon refused to be ordained.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  andrewlohr

Its funny how people keep justifying non-ordination without actually answering my question! But if PerfectHold’s comment below is accurate, I already know that Doug didn’t refuse to be ordained (so he’s no Spurgeon).

Though it seems he was ordained by the elders he appointed himself (and did he then ordain them in their turn? Was it a circular ordination?) and after being censured by more than one denominational body. In my world, pastors are ordained by other pastors (and longstanding senior ones at that) but obviously Doug’s church has its own unique policies.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Your are free to not recognize his ordination & or his authority as it purportedly derives from Jesus, whether indirectly through that chain of pastors or directly from His hand.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

So Jesus ordained Doug? When did that occur, PerfectHold? I’d love to know more.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

No pastor is a pastor unless ordained by Jesus.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

How do you know if they’ve been ordained by Jesus? And you didn’t answer my question about when Doug’s ordination by Jesus took place.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Do you agree that one must be ordained by Jesus in order to be a pastor?
If so, I’ll answer as to when it took place.
If not, splain why when I think it took place has any meaning to you.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

I believe that one must be called by Jesus to be a pastor. I count two pastors and three missionaries in my immediate family and am familiar with their calls. But “ordination” has a specific New Testament meaning, and in Acts 14:23 is carried out by existing church leaders, not by Jesus himself. So your definition confuses me.

“When they had appointed elders for them in every church, having prayed with fasting, they commended them to the Lord in whom they had believed”. ‘They’ in this passage are Paul and Barnabas.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Called by Jesus — you need that to be a pastor?
And how did you know that happened for them family folk?
Take their word on it?

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

Yes. As I said, though, I would consider their call as being a personal experience different from that of ordination, which is described in Acts 14:23. As for my family members, their personal testimonies of salvation and call were examined by senior church leaders, and they were then actually ordained.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

You rely on the supposed church leaders, by virtue of their supposed ordination by other supposed church leaders, to inform you as to whether folk are called by Jesus?

Ever take a gander directly at their lives and testimony and consider that as the basis of validation?

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

The example of Acts 14:23 shows that the new ordinees were in fact validated by the church leaders, so I think the ordination I speak of follows the New Testament pattern. But yes, I do also consider it my personal responsibility to evaluate their lives and testimonies according to I Timothy 3 and Titus 1. In fact, I have one brother who went into the ministry only to later fail the tests of those passages. Sadly, he became overbearing and quarrelsome and lorded himself over the flock (I Peter 5:3). Ordination doesn’t prevent there ever being a problem with a… Read more »

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

For all the good that ordination can do in helping to identify & acknowledge & encourage in the church, the question then follows:
Can one be ordained by Christ, and without ordination by local dudes, and should such be considered a real pastor.

First — ordained by Christ = not just called but placed, such that the dude can legitimately demand obedience.

Any examples of seemingly lone ranger prophets / pastors you see in the Bible?

Let’s see.
Jesus.
Moses.
Abraham.
Melchizidek.
Noah.
John the Baptist.
Appolos.
That dude the apostles were complaining about preaching & healing without a licence.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  PerfectHold

In the account of the early church, new church leaders were ordained by existing leaders. Jesus, being the Son of God, is a unique case; he required no ordination at all. The Old Testament role of the prophet is not directly equivalent to the New Testament pastor or elder (as shown by the fact that there are specific New Testament requirements listed in I Timothy 3 and Titus 1). The ministry of John the Baptist was in fact validated by Jesus, but Jesus was of course present in the flesh at the time. The ordination of Appolos is not known,… Read more »

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Bit of rabbit hole, but are really troubled at the idea of obeying any blessed thing a Jesus-called pastor throws your way? As long as it’s godly?

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Are you still working on the Luke 9 unordained dude? Did you say Jesus ordained John the Baptist?

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Guester, the idea just occured to me that your disagreement with Doug is cultural. He does not behave in ways you are used to and because of this you doubt his calling.

Is that a fair reading?

holmegm
holmegm
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Which ordination authority would you prefer, exactly? Which body would you consider valid?

And who made you judge of all this, BTW?

Jeremy
Jeremy
9 years ago

My post on Facebook: I’ve seen a couple of happy clappy posts by people delighted to see that Trueman has nailed Wilson to the wall. It’s all very exciting. Trueman’s point is something like, wah, my mom’s not like that. And, either-or fallacy! Trueman’s rant gleefully assumes that using “either” and “or” necessarily means that what’s going on is not a presentation of extremes that actually do exist, but rather an ignorant failure to acknowledge that some unbelievers know how to play nice. It doesn’t matter to Trueman that Wilson obviously affirms the complexity of unbelief, because Trueman’s goal isn’t… Read more »

Mark Lawrence
Mark Lawrence
9 years ago

I…..goofed….please….forgive….me. Its the best response and is short. Seriously dude, sometimes reading your stuff is like reading my old school papers when a teacher gave a 1000 word minimum and I only had 500 words of content. You used “generalization” 4 times in one sentence, presumably to be cute, in an article that was already difficult to read. Editor’s nightmare.

Mark Lawrence
Mark Lawrence
9 years ago

Can we all be blatantly honest here and just say, there are some girls down the street who are unbelievers and are just plain attractive and there are some dear sisters (and some chunky bald brothers like me) that didn’t win the looks lottery? Thankfully God looks upon the heart.

Christian Histo
Christian Histo
9 years ago

I am someone that has really enjoyed Doug Wilson’s writings in the past. When he takes his time and thinks things through he is helpful, kind and sometimes quite brilliant. But then there are times like this. One of the requirements for being a pastor is that we are not be pugnacious (Titus 1:7). In other words, do not go out looking for a fight. Obviously,as preachers of the gospel, we sometimes find ourselves in fights whether we like it or not. But stirring up trouble for the fun of dropping a concrete block in a fish bowl is something… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago

“If the point of the post was “the gospel tends to add to the beauty of women” I think you could have said that with almost no controversy.”

Yes, and well said. A pity that was not the point.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

What percentage of women look more beautiful when they come alive?

Webster
Webster
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

So what do you think WAS the point?

That’s what the title says and that’s what nearly every paragraph leads towards.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Webster

I think one point was for Doug spew his smug, indefensible views about women in the context of ostensibly talking about the evils of society. (I mean Eve screwed it up for EVERYBODY. right?!) I think another point was for Doug to deflect the legitimate and growing criticism of his conduct in handling the sex abuse cases in his church with a post or two sure to stoke some good old-fashioned outrage. Lastly, I think another couple of minor points are that 1) Douglas likes the attention he gets good or bad and is a narcissist. 2) He also enjoys… Read more »

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

So, he is small like you are; motivated only by human concerns.

Webster
Webster
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

> I mean Eve screwed it up for EVERYBODY. right?

No. The Bible consistently blames Adam. Old Testament: “Cursed is the ground because of you” (said to Adam); New Testament: “For by one man, sin entered the world, and death through sin,” (said of Adam).

I’m unaware of the situation mentioned in your second paragraph, but this hardly seems likely to deflect attention from it. In fact, it seems more likely to highlight it. Outrage feeds on outrage.

Your third paragraph is basically irrelevant, since the question was about “the point”, not “all the points”.

Darius
Darius
9 years ago

Jesus regularly looked for a fight… so are you saying he couldn’t have been a pastor?

Willis
9 years ago
Reply to  Darius

Darius, Jesus spoke the gospel truth. Doing that led to a fight. He did not go “looking” for a fight The fight came to him. John says that the world hated him because darkness hates the light. It didn’t say that the world hated him because he called their mothers lumber jack dykes. I made it clear in my comment that sometimes the fight comes to us when we speak the truth. I also made the point (quoting scripture) that as pastors we are not supposed to be pugnacious. This post was pugnacious. It was written in such a way… Read more »

timothy
timothy
9 years ago

Titus 1:7English Standard Version (ESV)

7 For an overseer,[a] as God’s steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain,

pug·na·cious

eager or quick to argue, quarrel, or fight.

sigh.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

Seems you’ve just agreed with Prolifeevangelical, Timothy! Well done. He said

“One of the requirements for being a pastor is that we are not be pugnacious (Titus 1:7). In other words, do not go out looking for a fight”

You could of course also quote I Timothy 3:

“Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.”

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

There is quite a difference between “quarrelsome” and “being salt” and “letting your speech be seasoned with salt”.

Did you ever read the fable “The Princess and the Pea”? You remind me of the princess and Pastor Wilson’s words are the pea.

What a dainty thing you are to consider the mild-mannered Pastor Wilson a bully.

Willis
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

The greek word here is “plektes” which the friberg greek lexicon defines as “pugnacious person, bully, quarrelsome person “.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Willis

Thank you Willis! While my knowledge of the Scripture is decent (a legacy of my pastor father), my greek is poor. This is helpful clarification.

ashv
ashv
9 years ago

Sounds like a lot of people need to be sent to insensitivity training.

I am Matt
I am Matt
9 years ago

“Is a case to be made — even on the level of generalization — that the alternative to belief in Christ for women today is either to become easy skanks or angry lesbians? Sure, it is. The circulation of Cosmopolitan, the general outlook of which I was making fun of, is in the Millions. And what outlook, if not that of angry lesbianism, rules all the stupid decorum policies — you know, microagressions and all that crap — of virtually every college campus in America?” It boggles my mind that Doug’s critics seem to be able to read between the… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  I am Matt

The lines are pretty self explanatory. In fact when I read them again they seem even more obvious. Is reading between them even necessary.

Women to Douglas Wilson:
Skanks
Angry lesbians
Easy lays
Clueless women
Waifs with manga eyes
Lumberjack dykes
Pushy broads
Twinkles in tight tops

These are the words of a pastor? A leader of a congregation? This particular christian community, the one aligned with Doug Wilson has a problem.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Especially when they claim that his words are like those of Jesus. As a fellow Christian, I am absolutely stunned by that. And embarrassed. And grieved that someone might see Jesus as someone who would say these terrible things.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

It is interesting to me too that feminism is a dirty word here. Among christians in general. I place it in the shame-code/self-censor file with bitter, slander and gossip.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Ah, yes, being Baptist I already knew that. It is a word to which people (on both sides of debates, in fairness) have already attached their own meanings! I avoid using “the f word” because it seems to block real discussion; people just end up arguing over what it means.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

What has been turning American women into whores and dykes if not feminism?

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

Dumb.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Nonsense. Would you say feminism has made American women more whorish and dykish or less?

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

Would you say that christianism has made American men more wife-beat-y and bi-curious or less?

See how that one makes as much sense as your insulting false premise?

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

I don’t know what ‘christianism’ is, so I couldn’t answer. If you meant Christianity, then I can answer, but you will have to ask the question. For a premise to be false, it has to be false. My premise was that American women have been turning into whores and dykes. Because women are discrete objects, and because of the binary nature of whores and dykes (you is or you ain’t), clearly this can be interpreted as a larger number of American women becoming either whores or dykes relative to the pre-feminist years. I thought we were all on board with… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

That is a truly idiotic premise. Yes, looking forward to the published scientific, peer-reviews studies that prove it. I can see it now: The New England Journal Of Medicine. Sept 2015 The Nature Of Discrete Objects And The Subsequent Metamorphosis Into Whores And Dykes When Exposed To Feminism By Job. uh… no recognized credentials. Douglas Wilson. strangely, no recognized credentials. Not even ministerial credentials. Methods: Conjecture and fantasy (oh, and don’t forget the bible!) Results: We think woman are ordered to be submissive and we can tell them how to behave. Conclusions: Christian woman are pretty. Non-christian woman are whore… Read more »

holmegm
holmegm
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Which ministerial credentials would you approve of, exactly?

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  holmegm

Ministry of Silly Walks. Come on man. That is your take away question?

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

I will be happy to cite studies to support my premise. Now I do have some concerns about your honesty and knowledge and I am more than aware of the frailty of my own nature, so please help me as I lay some groundwork (just to make sure we’re not wasting our time): 1. What is my premise? 2. What is the difference between discrete and continuous? 3. What does binary mean? 4. What does whore mean? 5. What does dyke mean? 6. What, as you understand it, is the difference between statistics and science? 7. Has your trust of… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

Job, do you seriously think I would humor an apologetics quiz? That is hilarious.

And please, after thinking about it, I realize that I will no evidence for the premise. I can’t take it.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

THE “RandMan” INTERNET ARGUING CHECKLIST http://larrycorreia.wordpress.com/2013/09/20/the-internet-arguing-checklist/

Skim until Offended
Disqualify that Opinion
Attack, Attack, Attack
Disregard Inconvenient facts
Make Shit Up
Resort to Moral Equivalency
Concern Trolling
When all else fails, Racism!

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Hey RandMan, I was offline for the weekend. Suit yourself. I have no ill will toward you and look forward to future discussions.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

On behalf of American women everywhere, thank you for the insult.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

You are quite welcome, assuming you are either a whore or a dyke and happy in your condition. If you are a feminist, then you deserve much of the credit.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

I am an American woman. Per you, I have been turned into a whore and/or a dyke. Your assumption was already made.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

That is not true.

‘been turning [a group]’ does not equal ‘[a discrete member of the group] has been turned’

If you are going to take offense at what I said, please take offense at what I actually said.

I make no assumptions about you as an individual.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

You remember that thing about communication, that goes like this? 1 – What I want to communicate 2 – The words that come out of my mouth (which may or may not accurately express what I want to communicate) 3 – The words you hear (which may or may not be the words I said) 4 – What you understand from the words you heard (which is now 3 steps away from what I wanted to communicate, with 3 separate opportunities for error). You want to communicate a thing, but what I understood from your first comment was “American women… Read more »

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

I was responding to this: “It is interesting to me too that feminism is a dirty word here.” What I wrote was this: “What has been turning American women into whores and dykes if not feminism?” You understood it as “”American women are whores and dykes.” Your mistake was to take it personally. All I was doing was letting Randman know that there is a darn good reason for feminism to be hated. It is not benign. It is evil and it ruins women in a real sense. That ruination is something only the gospel can fix. By Christ’s blood… Read more »

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

If women are being turned into whores and dykes, then that is what we are. That is simple logic.

I don’t know why you can’t express yourself without using that ugly language. Are you able to articulate what is sinful about feminism without using gutter language? Between a lack of chastity in action, and a total abandonment of circumspection in language, I’m not seeing a huge gulf.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

If women are being turned into whores and dykes, then that is what we are. That is simple logic

Logic is hard; especially for the fairer sex.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

“If women are being turned into whores and dykes, then that is what we are. That is simple logic.” That is what many individual American women have become. More are becoming that every day. This colors the entire group, making it more whorish and dykish on average, and increasingly so over time. However, many women have been held back from those sins by God’s grace. Others are being renewed every day in Christ Jesus – they are no longer defined by their sins, rather they are new creations in Christ and their identity is in him. I think the language… Read more »

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

I will tell you this:
It is wrong for you to use these terms to describe women. You need to either stop, or else stop calling yourself a Christian. Pick one. Now you can’t say no one has told you this.
Now I’m done. You’re dragging me down and I don’t need it.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

No.

Now you have been gracious to me, and I appreciate your feminine spirit. You seem like a kind person and I am sure you are a blessing to your husband, but you have no right to dictate the terms of my salvation. If I am in error, then may the Holy Spirit correct me so that I can serve him more faithfully. As for now I think vulgarity has its place.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

I am leaving you to God to correct now, but I can’t help asking – what do you think the vulgarity is accomplishing? Who is it persuading to turn to Jesus?

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

Hi, Laura. I was offline for the weekend. Vulgarity’s chief use is in cutting through the layer of social niceties that plague American discourse.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

You think that’s what plagues American discourse, really?

When your mother taught you to say “please” and “thank you” that was a plague?

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

To answer the first question, of course. Just ask the Europeans. They consider our excessive politeness to be dishonest (Krauts in particular think this.). Add to that political correctness and American discourse too often devolves into a farce.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

I don’t care about European standards.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

That is fine. What you have not shown is why anyone should care about the current American standards.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

If they are Americans, they should.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  Laura

It is wrong for you to use these terms to describe women. You need to
either stop, or else stop calling yourself a Christian. Pick one.

Pick this.

Laura
Laura
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

What are you revealing about yourself here?

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

beautiful.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

guester, serious question: Do you believe that Jesus is God in the flesh who has been raised from the dead by the power of the Holy Spirit?

Kevin Bratcher
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

“The lines are pretty self explanatory. In fact when I read them again they seem even more obvious. Is reading between them even necessary.”

So in other words, “Everything I read from Doug passes through my “Doug is evil” filter, so no need to take my opinions seriously.”

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Kevin Bratcher

Nope. I think my point was that the ideas are not hard to grasp. You, I must assume agree with those descriptions of women.

I am Matt
I am Matt
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

At some level, I see what you’re saying. But at another (more reasonable level) I completely disagree. Now, I should mention, there are times that I wish Doug wouldn’t use the inflammatory language, not because I don’t like the inflammatory language (I actually usually get a good chuckle out of it), but because using such language generates reaction to the language and not reaction to the content. Which is annoying, and also my main point. But here’s where I think your error is: saying that all the above is how Doug thinks about women. In each case (and I went… Read more »

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  I am Matt

*Sigh* Do I have to point out again that Wilson wasn’t generalizing, he was engaging in the well known logical fallacy of the false dilemma? You can tell by the either/or language.

But regardless, not. like. Jesus.

Tyrone Taylor
Tyrone Taylor
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

It is not a false dilemma, your logic here is poor. You may incorrectly take the first article as a false dilemma, but Wilson clearly explains here that it is a generalization.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  I am Matt

I am not willing to give him that leeway. It is fairly clear what he thinks about women no matter how cleverly he likes to wrap it up in a fishy-smelling newspaper with the gospel printed on the back. I will link again to what I could not possibly improve upon: “This works as a distraction because he then makes a big show of correcting the people who inevitably draw the conclusion that he’s being pretty insulting to women. Because, you see, he’s not insulting all women. He’s just insulting some women. He pats himself on the back for thus… Read more »

Carson Spratt
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

So you’re asking us to concede that what Doug says about some women must reflect his opinion of all women. That’s quite the argument, but maybe I’m reading too much between the lines. But let’s talk about your hermeneutic. You say that it’s “fairly clear what he thinks about women.” I agree, but I’m willing to quote all of what he says as representative of his beliefs, including what he says about his wife. You, however, can only take half of what he says, and must throw the rest away as being deceptive and misleading. Which hermeneutic is more reasonable?… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Carson Spratt

Not interested in this as an apologetics game. It’s too simple to waste time untangling pretzel logic. Look at the language and attitude DW uses regarding women.

Be a man and stand up for your sisters against a bully.

Carson Spratt
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

It’s not pretzel logic, it’s baguette logic: straight and to the point. Saying “Doug’s not talking about all women: he’s accurately describing a certain subset” is hardly convoluted. If you have trouble following it (which seems unlikely) then perhaps the discussions which pop up so frequently on this blog are not edifying for you. If you can follow it, then please stop conflating all women with some women: I think that disavowing any differences between kinds of women is rather insulting to the amazing diversity that their gender possesses.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Carson Spratt

Nope. His certain ‘subset’ in this case is non-christian women who he characterizes as easy lays or dykes. Or christian woman who who are bee-yootiful. Your attempt to turn tables on who exactly is disavowing and failing to support diversity of viewpoint here shows either a tremendous amount of willful ignorance or simple intellectual dishonesty. Of course this conversation is downstream from his other post that hands out all women theirrulebook: Keep quiet, submit, be a homemaker, put out sexually, don;t be a nag etc. And that post exists to deflect from the REAL issue knocking at Doug”s door which… Read more »

Carson Spratt
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

You’ve run out of arguments, Randman. You’re returning to abuse which you and others have failed to substantiate, coloring actual events to suit your narrative. You continue to insist that every sin must turn into a pitched battle, where you pick a side and fight the other side to the death. Thus, you say that Doug chose one side over the other. But that’s not how the Gospel works. He has faithfully ministered to both sides. Again, you have no evidence that Steven has harmed his child, so continuing to accuse only multiplies your dishonesty, and reiterates your false view… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Carson Spratt

Who are you to judge what the font of my rebuke is? I know what Douglas’s is because it is obvious. From what he writes. A combination fear of female power and sexuality and the scripture. Listen to what mine is from what I write: I do not like those who coddle and protect rapists at the expense of their victims. I will rebuke those who do, whatever scripture they choose to pull out of their a** to do it. My rebuke comes from having familial experience with sexual offenders and understanding first hand where the problems lie in dealing… Read more »

Carson Spratt
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Randman, I know what the font of your rebuke is: Comic Sans Evidence.

And while I grieve that you were abused, being a victim doesn’t make you an expert in justice. Being a patient doesn’t make you a doctor. And being the plaintiff can make you a very bad judge indeed.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Carson Spratt

Both Wight and Sitler were charged and sentenced. Wilson advocated leniency for both. Blame/shamed the Greenfield’s in a letter. Sided with Wight in court and then married off Sitler to a young parishioner knowingly producing a baby. Then there is Natalie’s blog which details her abuse quite explicitly. Evidence enough for me. Also spare me your bulls**t grief, not asked for nor required. Being open about abuse is different than being somebody’s victim. I own my experiences. Certainly, reject my argument from personal anecdote. Reject Natalie’s. Reject the two year old with a p***s on her mouth. And by all… Read more »

Carson Spratt
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

When you demand that I acknowledge that the events are always the same, you’re showing the true source of your anger: you’re still angry at your abuser. If events are always the same, then that makes it easier for you to be as angry at Steven as you were and are at your abuser. You want Steven to be punished because, in your mind, he’s the same person as your abuser. They all are the same, you cry. You want to form a common identity between the two. But let me tell you this: people are different. Steven is not… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Carson Spratt

You are of course wrong, but that is an easy mistake to make when you have no idea of how the pathology works or what you are talking about with regard to child sexual abuse. I pity abusers. They cannot help themselves and are statistically almost certain to be abuse victims themselves. I feel no anger. I feel disgust however for people who would think they know better than those who devote their lives to the study of this sickness and call it merely sin. Who would then put other children in harms way and treat the victims and families… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Carson Spratt

Also, I don’t want Sitler punished. Punishment is a most christian preoccupation. I do want Sitler and Wight far away from children. Forever. I want the victims of Silter and Wight to be given kindness and deference.

Fail city here in both of those departments.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  I am Matt

Is that being a man to you? Knowing where to take a date for dinner. Are you kidding?

You know what being a man is? Standing up for people weaker than you. Pushing back against ideas that minimize others. Try it sometime.

Or stick to your ‘broad-shouldered’ manly schtick. It’s working for you.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

You pathetic little schmuck. You yell and scream point and shout and refuse to engage the ideas. You are a poser.

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Here “the Words” of the Lord, The Lamb, The Christ. They are pretty self explanatory, however, there is much to be read, between the lines: You snakes, you brood of vipers! “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs, on the inside are full of the bones of the dead and everything unclean. Let them alone; they are blind guides of the blind. And if one blind person guides another, both will fall into a pit.” “Are you still so dull?” Jesus asked them. and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat… Read more »

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  "A" dad

Jesus’ invective was directed at the religious leaders. In the passage you’ve quoted, he specifically and repeatedly lists their hypocritical religious practices. Jesus certainly could have directed his words at the crowds around him, or the loose women of Jerusalem, or the unbelieving Gentiles. But he didn’t. He turned his scorn on the religious leaders. There is no valid comparison between Doug’s misdirected insults of unbelieving women and Jesus’ righteous rebuke of the Scribes and Pharisees.

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

OK, so regular people are better, or get a break compared to Scibes and Pharisees. Got it. Good thing you and I have never been hypocrites, never been blind, never been unclean, never been adulterous, it’s just those “leaders”. ; – ) Whew, for a minute there I thought I might have to repent.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  "A" dad

Please reread my comment, A Dad. I didn’t say any of those things that you have said. The context and target of Matthew 23 is very clear and very specific, and I pointed that out to you.

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Sorry gusti, read The Word of Matt 12. Jesus was speaking to the Pharisees and the entire generation of Israel at that time, “the crowd”, so you are just wrong when you say Jesus did not direct His Words at “the crowds. (and you and me as well. we are part of that “crowd”) Submit to The Word of Jesus gusti, don’t submit to me. The Word of Jesus is valid, yours is not, mine does not compare either.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  "A" dad

Matthew 23: 1-2 “Then spake Jesus to the multitude, and to his disciples, Saying The scribes and the Pharisees sit in Moses’ seat:” Jesus is speaking *to* the multitude and the disciples, but he is speaking *about* the Pharisees. I don’t know how many times he has to say it to make it clear to you but here goes: vs. 13: ” But woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites!” vs. 14 ” Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites!” vs. 15 ” Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites!” vs. 23 “Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites!” vs… Read more »

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

​Gusti, context my boy! I quoted Matt 12, 15, 18 and 23. The Word tells us who the comments were adressed to as well as who they where about. “Jesus certainly could have directed his words at the crowds around him, or the loose women of Jerusalem, or the unbelieving Gentiles. But he didn’t. ” You are wrong gusti, Jesus did. Don’t argue with me, read The Word! Matthew23 Then Jesus said to the crowds and to his disciples: 2 “The teachers of the law and the Pharisees sit in Moses’ seat. 3 So you must be careful to do… Read more »

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  "A" dad

But still yet, Jesus repeated seven times “Scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites!” Jane Dunsworth tried to make the same argument as you yesterday, that the passage could be about something else. But as I said, when Jesus makes the same statement seven times I’m going to receive it–literally–as he said it. You obviously have made another choice.

The preposition “to” is used to refer to who is in the audience; who is being spoken to. But Jesus makes it very clear who he is calling hypocritical: the scribes and Pharisees. We will have to disagree on this one, A dad.

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Gusti, we don’t disagree so much as you ignore the Words of Matt 12, 15, 18 in addition to 23, that I quoted, in response to randi’s words. But here is where we might actually agree, while people are often the vessels of God’s Word or ministration to others, conviction of sin is the Work of The Holy Spirit, not the messengers. Per below, John spoke a tough message to “the crowds”. John spoke the same message to the pharisees. The Spirit Works on hearts, even now. Luke 3:7 John said to the crowds coming out to be baptized by… Read more »

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Some Women to Douglas Wilson:

Fixed it. I like his use of language. It captures the wide road to hell as contrasted with the narrow gate to heaven. I love the concern that you, an atheist, have for Pastor Wilson. Such care. You are quite the moral example.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Here is a list courtesy of St. Paul: 28And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. 29They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness , evil , covetousness , malice. They are full of envy , murder , strife , deceit , maliciousness. They are gossips ,slanderers , haters of God , insolent , haughty , boastful , inventors of evil , disobedient to parents ,foolish , faithless , heartless , ruthless. 32Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice… Read more »

holmegm
holmegm
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

Clearly Paul has a problem with “they”. Which must mean “everybody”!

holmegm
holmegm
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

You really think he said that about all women?

You really think that there are not some women who are in those categories?

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  holmegm

Yes, I think based on his output that he is a madonna/whore kind of guy.

Are there male prostitutes and gay men? Yes. Would it EVER occur to me to use only those categories to refer to non-christian men? No.

If it did, it would say a lot about me. It says a lot about Wilson.

Mike
Mike
9 years ago

Here’s a practical question: how in the world do you have time to keep feeding the beast of all of the controversies you spark? Isn’t there a church that you pastor? Seriously, the sheer amount of time that you spend managing and pouring gas on all the debates you start? Maybe this is part of feeding the flock/equipping the saints for you. But the problem is that the flock end up eating up all this stuff, and majoring on the same minors that you do and continue to build up serious walls around the little fortress you guys are building…or… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Mike

It is called narcissism. Douglas likes it- the attention. And any attention is better than no attention. Frankly, I am happy to feed Wilson’s beast, because these issues, especially those around his failure to protect his parishioners deserve it. The victims deserve it. I for one, clearly see the thread between his general view on women and how he responded in those cases. His concern seemed squarely placed on the souls of offending males. Why wouldn’t it be with his view of patriarchal superiority and woman being called to submit? It is easy to follow the dots here. Ideas have… Read more »

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

It is called evangalism. The Word is a sword that divides. Its about time a Pastor wielded it.

They stoned St. Stephen, Crucified St. Peter and executed St. Paul for speaking as Pastor Wilson speaks.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

“They stoned St. Stephen, Crucified St. Peter and executed St. Paul for speaking as Pastor Wilson speaks.”

Stephen, Peter and Paul called unbelieving women either easy lays or lumberjack dykes? Do please provide a Scripture reference for this, Timothy.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

Here is Pastor Wilson’s statement:

Unbelieving women either compete for the attention of men through
outlandish messages that communicate some variation of “easy lay,” or in
the grip of resentment they give up the endeavor entirely, which is how
we get lumberjack dykes.

Your strawman just turned to ashes.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

You consider Pastor Wilson’s statement a Scripture reference? That is indeed very strange.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

How could anyone without autism interpret this in a literal manner? Wilson is obviously exaggerating for rhetorical effect by contrasting two ends of a spectrum of female behaviors.

Malachi
Malachi
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

And NOW you’ve angered all the mothers of autistic kids! When will you learn to stop making analogies, using stereotype, and conjuring useful pictorial images?

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  Malachi

“A” dad actually stands for Autism dad, re: one of my children. I am not offened by either “Job” or Malachi’s comment, even if Malachi is from Texas! ; – ) By the way, my child is pretty literal, it’s quite an endearing and refreshing quality. The child does have an abstract side as well, but if one is too literal one might miss it.!

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  Malachi

Alright buddy. Metaphor and Allegory are waaaaaay out of line.
(;

Gregory C Dickison
Gregory C Dickison
9 years ago
Reply to  Mike

Actually, the fires are very helpful. In the light of them the sheep can see the wolves.

Thanks for all of this, Doug, and your faithful pastoring. Keep it up!

ZYX
ZYX
9 years ago

Pastor Wilson:
Rather than a cinder block in a goldfish bowl, tell us why we should NOT think you are purposely creating a tempest in a teapot here. And why should we not assume this all to be a diversionary tactic.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  ZYX

Diversion from what?

ZYX
ZYX
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

I think you jest. That’s a good one! :) :0
Seriously, I’m hoping Rev Wilson will respond, so I ought to clarify. Although I intended “diversion” as “diversionary tactic”, it could also mean”entertainment”. I’ve a cynical, sneaking suspicion that Wilson finds the reactions to his writings amusing. I hope I’m wrong, and that he’ll set me straight.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  ZYX

I thought you were referring to the pedophile scandal, but wanted to hear it from you. Is this the case? I do not jest. Quite the contrary.

ZYX
ZYX
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

Yes. I wanted to hear it from Wilson. It appears I’ll be disappointed.

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago

I must say Doug, well done! The last several weeks I really have been able to see how the Gospel is scandalous. The reactions to Steven Sitler, and now your description of what makes a lady really pretty, bring to mind episodes where the Pharasee’s screamed, rent their clothes, and put their hands over their ears. Thank you and praise God for your boldness.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Duells Quimby

Indeed! Because preaching the gospel needs to be at the expense of other’s well-being and personhood.

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

You are too clever by half. He’s done no such thing.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Let sleeping dogs lie?

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

R’, the Gospel did come at the expense of someone’s well-being and personhood, that of Jesus. He paid that expense at the cost of His own well-being and personhood because both your and my “well-being and personhood” are not as “well” or as personalbe as we might like to believe. ; – )

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Such tender ears. The Gospel, like Math, is hard.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

timothy, stop following me around!

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Mr. Friendly gets angry.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

Seriously, you are like some kind of little stalker. I am beginning to think that you might like me? Ok, I will let you tag along.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

An interesting property of a comment board is the sequential ordering of comments. One can then scroll from top to bottom and comment as one sees fit. You call that “stalking”. Ok, I will let you tag along. heh. That blithe assumption of smug superiority so prevalent among the coddled and well fed will evaporate when you face a Holy God. You will not be able to ignore Him; I suggest you face the music now and state clearly and examine in detail why you reject Him. Care to engage the topic? Or are you going to bravely run away… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

timothy, I know you want engage in some sort of righteous duel so as to proclaim your faith. And I do like a good debate about the circular logic that is belief in a supernatural entity and the doctrine that follows. But you, with your hocus-pocus language and assumptions of some sword-wielding, ass-kicker of a deity who will require souls to ‘face the music’ are not the kind of mind I would choose to have the conversation with. No offense.

ashv
ashv
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

You really picked the wrong blog to comment on then. I hear Rod Dreher has a good comment section though.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  ashv

ashv, isn’t there a cotton field missing an overseer somewhere? be of service.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

I am praying for your repentance and salvation. This is a Christian blog RandMan; I think it is presumptuous of you to think that its “poltiics only” or “culture only” and that that is the arena on which Christians ply their trade. God exists. He loves you and wants your immortal soul with Him in Heaven. He is also a righteous God who cannot allow sin into His presence. The rhetorical play you engage in will not work with Him. It is for that reason that I am firm with you. Reconciliation with Him is available by His grace, yet,… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

So go talk to him. You are too scattered for me. And frankly seem a wee bit unstable.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

I talk to Him all the time in thought and in little everyday things. The folks who wrote the hymn “I Walk With Him, I Talk With Him” had it right. Its called fellowship with the Lord.

See? You venture onto a Christian comment board and now you start wrestling with new realities. Progress!

Gianni
Gianni
9 years ago

People, don’t miss the point. Keep notes on who is saying what. All this is really about whether the Christian faith makes any waves in the actual physical world. It’s really about culture, sports, art, politics, astronomy, legislation, poetry, economics, geology, moviemaking, journalism, jurisprudence, music, and why not, fashion. Pastor Wilson keeps shooting down, from any angle he can, with wit, enthusiasm and godly boldness, any incarnation of the widely popular but biblically inept and eschatologically-impaired assumption that what we have here is all a state of mind, an invisible spiritual aura hidden between heaven and your heart, which you… Read more »

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Gianni

Fantastic! Christian blood sport. I like your deranged sniper analogy. Very apt.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Willful misconstruction is also highly entertaining.

But I’m sure Gianni appreciates your providing a textbook example for his textbook explanation.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

Hello Jane! I am glad you are back. Hope you brought some ammo and body armor. Some old time religion is about to happen.

Jane Dunsworth
Jane Dunsworth
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

BTW, you’re cute when you pretend you don’t understand how metaphors function in writing.

Sorry about the judgment, but being a human and not a robot, I simply couldn’t think about how you present yourself here and not simultaneously form an opinion about it.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

Clearly I got the metaphor Jane. Maybe is you who did not pick up on my continuation of it? Come on give me some credit. We are pen pals at this point.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Your aw-shucks tactic of pretending to be friends is wearing thin. You are gonna need a new frame.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

Well, I do actually feel friendly towards you. But we can keep some emotional distance if you wish.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

I feel contempt for you; shallow, foolish people have that effect on me. No distance, I like my disdain straight up.

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  Jane Dunsworth

No ammo needed. Old Timeless Religion is happening, as always.
2 Cor. 10
3 Of course we are living in bodies made for this world. But we are not fighting for the things in this world.
4 We do not use the things of this world in our fighting, but we use the power of God. This power can break down the walls where the enemy hides.
5 We can break down what people think and every big idea that tries to stop people from knowing God. And we can make every thought a prisoner to obey Christ.

Gianni
Gianni
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Fantastic! Anti-Christian deranged cluelessness. I like your willingness to show to the world the levels of your reading comprehension. Very apt.

So, folks, here you have it. Practical demonstration that Christians are not only more good-looking, but also way smarter than non-Christians.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Battle of Lepanto was pretty good too. Phineas wielded a sword with elan and General George Washington was renowned for his prayer life while at war.

timothy
timothy
9 years ago
Reply to  RandMan

Fantastic! (disarming praise)

Christian blood sport. I like your deranged sniper analogy. (dissonance)

The rhetorical effect is “jamming” as the person feels ‘good’ about the initial statement and the follow up creates cognitive dissonance.

Some better terms for my parenthesized words would be most welcome. Any ideas?

With RandMan’s rhetorical techniques laid bare, we will see if he is man enough for dialectic. I doubt it; farmers-market shopping mom-jeans atheists rarely have the intellect, ethics or courage for it, but there is hope.

RandMan
RandMan
9 years ago
Reply to  timothy

How about dinner and a date first timothy?

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago
Reply to  Gianni

Well done, and quite eloquently stated too! I agree, insert St. Crispins day speech here!

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago

Whether women are prettier here or there I can’t say. But all the cigars, scotch and arguing don’t do much for Moscow men. Not to mention the paunch bellies and greasy beards. When being appraised by one such as this, I guess I have a hard time caring.

Monte Harmon
Monte Harmon
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Ad hominem wins again! Or “maybenot”. Nothing like avoiding content to beat down the enemy.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Monte Harmon

Oh there can be no beating down here-not with his faithful minions to call upon! Ride to the defense of the great master! lol. It doesn’t change the fact that the one who thinks women should care whether or not they are pretty would not do well under the same eagle eyed appraisal.

Monte Harmon
Monte Harmon
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

I’ve only met the man twice, so not exactly a minion. Sometimes I even disagree with him! But invalid argumentation is visible from any distance and a second dose of ad hominem doesn’t make it any more valid.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Monte Harmon

Sometimes you actually disagree with him?! Wow. You must be a gud thinkr. How cute. I hope you are rewarded well for your loyalty.

Monte Harmon
Monte Harmon
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

And there we have it! Three meaningful comments. Or “maybenot”.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Monte Harmon

You’re funny. Your initial comment didn’t have anything to do with anything. I wasn’t trying to “take someone down” (Doug is quite willing to shoot himself in the foot. No help needed from me.) and I agree, I have no interest in the content of the blog post. That WAS my point. You, in your eagerness to defend your master come leaping out with omigosh, Latin words, no less. How CERC can you get? I’m sorry you’ve only gotten to meet him twice. It must be hard to be here wagging your tail so hard and barely be noticed. Well,… Read more »

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

For someone who has a hard time caring, you’re not very convincing.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Duells Quimby

Eh, a little sparring can be fun.

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Especially when you get to the, “Your mother was a hamster!” stage of commenting, eh? :)

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Duells Quimby

Yeah. Because though put forth with fancier language, that’s how I see the post. There are people with genuine concerns about the way women are treated in the church and this is what he throws out *at this time*. It strikes me as a pseudo intellectual “And not only that, but you’re ugly too!” and I do care. I do care. I care about the way people are treated. Doug “supporters” can put people who have something to say into tropes that are easily disposable to them, but that will be to the detriment of the church on the whole.… Read more »

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Why don’t you go and talk to them? If you’re a member of this church. Wouldn’t that be more productive?

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Duells Quimby

Not in my experience.

MrsMac
MrsMac
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

“I have no interest in the content of the blog post.” and yet here you are.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  MrsMac

Yep. You got me. Here I am. Not going away anytime soon, either.

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

I’m afraid we’re all going the way of the belly. Good think no one noticed my ear hair. My goodness! Then I’d really be sunk.

Sara
Sara
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Ha! Zing.

Reformed Roy
Reformed Roy
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Respectfully, this is not my blog so I don’t make the rules. Based on this, and most of the recent threads, dissenters are welcome. Take your shots at Doug. Question the motives of those who are generally in this camp. Hell, adopt a lumberjack dyke and start your own blog.

But, I humbly request you leave the cigars and scotch out of it. They are the real victims here.

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Reformed Roy

This made me laugh. Well played, Reformed Roy.

Reformed Roy
Reformed Roy
9 years ago
Reply to  guester

To both maybenot and guester, I appreciate the replies. In the interest of full disclosure, at the moment it is whiskey and a marlboro. More to the point, I’m fairly sure I understand your respective perspectives from your posts. Selfishly, I do not care for the heavy/light hearted hostility you bring. I come here for pleasure. My manly version of a soak in the tub if you will. I believe that Doug can be edgy. I believe that he can provoke. I absolutely believe he can be wrong (his initial take on reformed rap). Although, he did come around. That… Read more »

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Reformed Roy

You admit to a Marlboro. And THEN you want people to take you seriously?

Doug can be edgy. I guess he should be able to take it then. I found it ironic that the man who literally WROTE THE BOOK sanctifying the use of sarcasm suddenly needs
protection when it is used in return.

Reformed Roy
Reformed Roy
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Pretty sure I wrote selfishly, not seriously. No intent on my part to protect Doug. I do not think he needs it. If he were truly bothered, you would vanish at the literal push of a button. It is his blog. The fact that you are posting here would appear to bely some of the presumptions posted. As I wrote, I’m selfish. You’re invading my scented, bubble filled tub. No true resentment though. If you are good enough for Doug, you are good enough for me. Also, regarding the Marlboro, I tried some of the faggy European sticks. They did… Read more »

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Reformed Roy

I hope you enjoy it all, even the Marlboro. I say that with all sincerity. :) I didn’t really mean the response about the sarcasm to be directed at you personally, more replying to other things I’ve read where people are disregarded as “bitter” because their tone was not just perfectly gentle. I should have said that. Sorry.

Reformed Roy
Reformed Roy
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

@maybenot: No worries here. You may, or may not be bitter. I have no idea. I seldom give a rat’s ass about tone. Most folks are not subtle to the point where tone is relevant.
My mere desire is for honest opposing views that are not overtly dismissive. While I acknowledge that many here, including myself, appreciate what Doug brings to the table, descriptives such as minions tend to be somewhat general and condescending.

Possibly to the point of contributing in a similar fashion to the very generalizations to which some have taken offense.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Reformed Roy

OK, this is what I mean. Minions is mild compared to what Doug deals On A Daily Basis. Towards women, towards other pastors, towards anyone who disagrees. You are either anti dismissive tone across the board or you are pro dismissive. If you only take an exception when someone is aiming it towards the side you are in agreement with and then get all offended when it comes back, then you are a hypocrite.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Good grief, why is this so hard for people to see? If you men take an exception at someone pointing out your paunch belly and ear hair, and hope your wife can see beyond that, why is it so difficult to imagine women might feel the same? If, when in a disagreement don’t want to be typed as a fat, drunk, slime ball, maybe don’t talk about the people who disagree with you in those kind of terms. You get back what you give. You posted humor and I responded in humor. Monte posted in arrogant, intellectual bravado so I… Read more »

Reformed Roy
Reformed Roy
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Wow. If that is what you got from my response I will let it go now. Doug is the misogynist here (not really, just deflecting). From my end, you are proving my point. No dark intent in my heart. Just a little back and forth. God bless.

Susan Gail
Susan Gail
9 years ago
Reply to  Reformed Roy

Bastos is a superior Euro cig. Better than Reds or Camels

Reformed Roy
Reformed Roy
9 years ago
Reply to  Susan Gail

You may be correct. I have never smoked a Bastos, although I will humbly suggest that the name is slightly faggy. Aside from that, the Camel non-filter may be the best cigarette ever mass produced. I threw my wife a bone after my first heart attack and switched to the Marlboros. I felt it was what Jesus would do. On a wildly different note, I was recently turned on to some sweet music. The Water and the Blood album by Sojourn is worth anyones time. Mostly old, forgotten hymns brought to 2015. For those who check it out, you are… Read more »

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Reformed Roy

You touch my heart with your appeal and I confess, I did tread on sacred ground. If the scotch is of a certain quality and as long as the cigars are smoked outside I will leave off my attack. (Or in “the den”) I must confess, I don’t mind a little tobacco smell mixed in with the autumn air. The scotch though, is all yours.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Miss, you of all people should know that boldness is more important than looks, in men. With women it is the opposite.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

Miss? I am long past Miss. Sir. And I know no such thing. And assholery is not the same thing as boldness.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

It’s close enough for most women, ma’am.

maybenot
maybenot
9 years ago
Reply to  Job

No, it’s a way to insinuate youth and inexperience.

Job
Job
9 years ago
Reply to  maybenot

Boldness, I mean.

Teresa Rincon
Teresa Rincon
9 years ago

I sometimes wonder if Wilson is not an atheist or satanist posing as a Christian to make Christians look ridiculous. The original article had nothing to do with Christian women’s inner beauty, but their supposed physical attractiveness.

As far as submission goes, I’ve not heard any support from Wilsonite Christians regarding Michelle Obama and Hillary Clinton’s deference to their respective husbands. Apparently, submission is a virtue unless your husband is a Democrat.

PerfectHold
PerfectHold
9 years ago
Reply to  Teresa Rincon

Outward appearance is unperturbed by inner death?

guester
guester
9 years ago
Reply to  Teresa Rincon

That is certainly a Screwtape Letters take on Doug’s shenanigans, which being a fan of C.S. Lewis he should recognize…interesting point.

"A" dad
"A" dad
9 years ago
Reply to  Teresa Rincon

T’, below is where Wilson reitterates the value of Godly behavior by Abigail, where she respects her husbands “authority” while working around his abuse of it. Also, if Bill is a serial adulterer, H’ has grounds to leave per the same post below. Finally, how does Michelle defer or submit to Barry? Are they not equal? https://dougwils.com/s7-engaging-the-culture/open-letter-to-a-trapped-wife.html Your strategy should be to bring everything to a head. Abigail dealt with her blockhead husband with all wisdom, and everything consequently came to a head. She was submissive to him, up to a point, and went completely around him in another sense.… Read more »

Sara
Sara
9 years ago

I’m wondering if Doug Wilson and some of his defenders here would also say that Christian men are more handsome than non-Christian men? Or does this rule only apply to women because, of course, the most important thing a woman has to offer the world is how she looks. And maybe it is a low blow to go after Doug Wilson’s looks but it doesn’t really look like he takes much pride in his physical appearance. Maybe hit the gym once in a while, eh Doug? Don’t you want to look good for your wife? Or is it okay for… Read more »

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago
Reply to  Sara

What can we say? I’m forever glad my wife waited 36 years to find me. I like to think its for something other than my belly and ear hair.

Sara
Sara
9 years ago
Reply to  Duells Quimby

And surely you see something more in your wife than just “prettiness.” Or at least I would hope.

Duells Quimby
Duells Quimby
9 years ago
Reply to  Sara

Absolutely, you wouldn’t think that’s my wife’s only redeeming quality just because its the only one mentioned here would you? The same should apply to Doug. The prettiness of my wife is a gift that keeps on giving. But her beauty is not skin deep, it goes all the way through, and comes out shining in many aspects constantly. This was also a point of Doug’s posts. The longer we’ve been married the more beautiful she gets.