Getting the Victim Right

“You are not ‘blaming the victim’ if you are honestly involved in finding out who the victim is. A young girl abused by her stepfather is the victim. A stepfather falsely accused by his stepdaughter is the victim. If you approach is ‘ready, fire, aim,’ it does not matter if you say that your intent was to side with the victim. That really must be your first priority, but getting the identity of the victim right is part of it.”

Concise and to the Point, p. 56

Not One More Minute

“No conscientious pastor can be willingly complicit in a child having to spend one more minute under the control of his abuser, and no pastor can willingly turn over an innocent person to a system that will simply presume him to be guilty and quite possibly make a hash out of the rest of his life. That really is a true pastoral dilemma.”

Concise and to the Point, p. 51