We know from the Scriptures that those who maliciously seek to inflict violence on others—whether verbally, or physically, or within the confines of their own bitter hearts—are incurring guilt.
But at the same time it is important for us to note that this is not what they are seeking to do. They are not trying to incur guilt; they are trying to get rid of it. All violence of this kind is (at the root) a kind of sacrificial violence. All quarrels are abortive sacrifices, attempts at self-justification.
This is because sacrifice is woven into the very nature of the world, and men can do nothing that will alter this. If we reject the sacrifice of Christ on the cross, the end of all malicious hatred and violence, then we must somehow shift for ourselves. So the choice is inescapable—either the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world, or some hapless scapegoat.
When the love of the saints is replaced by recriminations and accusations flying about, we may know that evangelical faith in the death of Jesus is evaporating. It may still be there in the statement of faith (and probably is), but it is no longer in the mouths and hearts of the people.
In unbelieving societies, these kinds of accusations build up into a sacrificial crisis until there is some kind of drastic commotion, and everyone (for a short time) feels better. Pagan catharsis is the crack cocaine of social relations. After a time, it is time for another fix. Tragically, even many churches function this way as well, and this is why church split follows church split.
But God has provided only one alternative to this pattern. The only way to resolve a sacrificial crisis is through faith in Jesus, dead on the cross, and faith in Jesus, now at the right hand of God the Father Almighty, Maker of heaven and earth.