“In order to be sexually responsive, a wife needs to respect, on a fundamental level, the comprehensive masculinity of her husband. He must be a man, and not just a male. If he is aroused in the bedroom, that arousal must not make her resentment boil over — ‘Why can he not be aroused to …
No Competition
“Clearly a man who enjoys this kind of immense pleasure with his wife will have great difficulty turning elsewhere. A man sitting down to a steak dinner is unlikely to excuse himself in order to go eat some Ding Dongs he has stashed away in the closet. But a man facing yet another dinner of …
Six or Seven Blankets
“The lovemaking of this biblical couple [in the Song of Songs] is clearly not occuring in the dark under six or seven blankets. This couple is very open with one another and take a great sexual delight in their communion. This delight concentrates on specifics and is not just a general approval of sex, whatever …
The Entitlement
“An undisciplined man does not want to be troubled by such labors; he wants simply to follow his testosterone wherever it leads. If thrilling sex is there, he takes it. If it is not, he wonders ‘how come?’ Good sex is assumed to be something guaranteed to him by the Bill of Rights” (Fidelity, p. …
Sexually Marooned
“We have to take care that we do not combine our historical Protestant antipathy for the excesses of ascetic monks with our modernist compromises with every current sexual gospel, and then as a result conclude that the Bible could not possibly commend a life of celibacy. Most modern evangelicals know that the apostle Paul was …
Unitarian Sexuality
“And all men, single or married, should recognize that solitary sex is not the normative biblical pattern. Recalling that the love between a man and woman is a picture of Christ and the church, we should note that, quite apart from the moral and self-discipline issues involved, masturbation is lousy theology” (Fidelity, p. 113).
No, Not Really Prudish
“This biblical silence [on masturbation] cannot be explained by attributing a prudish silence to the biblical writers. They were not shy about condemning all kinds of sexual practices — sex with your grandchildren (Lev. 18:10), sex with your stepmother (1 Cor. 5:1), sex with your barnyard animals (Lev. 18:23), and so forth. No, the silence …
One Man, One Woman, One Time
“The first point to note is that when God determined to solve the problem of Adam’s loneliness, He did not do it with a harem” (Fidelity, p. 91).
And at the Heart
“True authority and true submission are therefore an erotic necessity” (Fidelity, p. 87)
Keeping Reality Mandatory
“When we quarrel with the way the world is, we find that the world has ways of getting back at us” (Fidelity, p. 86).