The Insufficiency of Education in Virtue

“Christian virtue needs to grounded on the bedrock of grace. Education in virtue is no substitute for gospel. If all you’re offering your kids is a moral course of instruction, all you’re doing is bringing up Pharisees. You’re raising a household of moralistic prigs. You’re going to get two inches of snow on a dunghill: it looks really pretty, and it photographs well, but it is what it is. Or to use the illustration the great Puritan Thomas Watson once used, you’re treating a broken leg by putting a silk stocking on it. An external conformity to virtuous behavior is not going to cut it. Everything depends upon the new birth.”

Keep Your Kids, pp. 46-47

Blind and Fastidious

“Remember that, right after having committed the crime of all crimes, the murder of the Christ, when Judas came back and returned the thirty pieces of silver, these orderly process-mongers were very concerned about what account to put the money into. They didn’t want to get dinged in the next audit. Ethics are so important.”

Mere Christendom, p. 44

Oppression Always Respectable

“One of the things that Girard noticed about the Scriptures, not to mention human history, is that oppression is always respectable, and that the victim who protests that oppression is not respectable. He is told to shut up. Persecutors always feel persecuted. The oppressor feels oppressed and is highly indignant when the victim won’t shut up. When the victim writes a psalm of lament, he is not playing the dutiful role that he was assigned. The victim is therefore the troublemaker and must be dealt with.”

Mere Christendom, p. 43

Three Characteristics of Wise Discipline

“First, discipline must be prompt. No delays or postponements. Ecclesiastes says that discipline must be carried out ‘speedily.” Second, discipline must be effective. The child needs to feel it. The book of Hebrews says that no discipline seems pleasant at the time but rather painful. If it isn’t painful, it isn’t corrective. Third, discipline must be consistent. Whenever there is an infraction, you need to deal with it. Too often, discipline is meted out based on the attention span of the parent or the annoyance threshold of the parent . . . What are you teaching your children [with intermittent discipline]? It certainly isn’t virtue. You’re instilling in them a gambler’s hope.”

Keep Your Kids, pp. 45-46