Weddings and Self-Expression

“So in the sixties we all began to do our own thing — write our own vows, invent our own little ceremonies, and generally march around in our own little circle. Since then we have settled down somewhat, but we still have the idea that the wedding belongs to the couple and not to a culture. We have come to believe that each wedding should be shaped by the personality of the couple, rather than our culture bestowing recognition on the couple according to the customs of our people” (Federal Husband, pp. 105-106).