“No one can go into a marriage relationship to find out what it would be like to be married to this person without being married to them already. This means that with the scriptural system of courtship, the commitment comes first, and true intimate knowledge of the spouse comes second” (Her Hand in Marriage, p. …
A Peek at the Future
“If a girl wants to be impressed with a young man, she needs to see how he speaks to his own mother at home, and not how nice he can be across the dinner table from a cute girl at a restaurant” (Her Hand in Marriage, p. 88).
Ice Cream and Susie
“Often guys will say, ‘I love Susie.’ This does not necessarily mean they are interested in Susie’s best interest, but rather, ‘I really like the sensations which occur in me whenever Susie is around.’ When a boy say, ‘I love ice cream’ he is not seeking the ice cream’s best interest. He loves the sensation …
Families Come From Families
“In a wedding, the family is giving birth; it is reproducing itself” (Her Hand in Marriage, p. 80).
The Bridezilla Blunder
“The wedding is simply a doorway into the house of the marriage. There is no problem with “decorating” this doorway — the practice of adorned brides and plenty of wine for the guests is certainly biblical — so the parents of the bride should fee free to spend some money and have a joyful wedding. …
How About Saturday Then?
“When a girl says no to a young man, he often feels free to press her for her reasons. She may not have to date him, but she frequently has to debate him” (Her Hand in Marriage, p. 77).
The Common Denominator
“When men fall away from the Lord, they do so for all kinds of reasons — money, career, a woman, sex, drugs, alcohol, etc. But when women fall away from the Lord, invariably there is a man involved” (Her Hand in Marriage, p. 75).
What Marriage Is
Sexual activity without a covenant is not a marriage, and a marriage ceremony without sexual activity is no marriage. Marriage is covenanted sex with attendant covenantal responsibilities” (Her Hand in Marriage, p. 73).
Snippet from a Work in Process
“If someone is disposed to argue this particular point with me, they could win that argument by making a list of all the denominations that have begun to ordain women in the last generation, and show me how this was followed by an explosion of moral chastity, purity, and fidelity. Looking for flourishing chastity in …
A Neglected Courtship Protocol
“Talking to a young woman’s father is not the same thing as staking a claim, or establishing dibbies” (Her Hand in Marriage, p.63).