“The second thing, to wit, what order and manner is to be observed in the following of public scandals, is not easily determinable, there being such variety of cases in which the Lord exercises the prudence and wisdom of his church officers” (Durham, 53).
“Scandals that are so circumstanced, and they only, are to be taken notice of by church judicatories as the proper object of church discipline. Hence we may see a great difference between offense as it is the object of private discretion, and as it is the object of church discipline” (Durham, p. 50, emphasis mine).
“Tenaciousness and self-willedness often breed offenses, and continually stand in the way of removing them; and although there is nothing more ordinary in a time of offenses that that, to wit, for men to stand to their own judgment and opinion as if it were a piece of liberty and conscience not to condescend in …
“When offenses abound, it is often most safe to be least appearing, except a man’s call is the more clear and convincing. For as in the multitude of words there wants not sin, so in much meddling there wants not offense” (Durham, p. 36).
“That is the meaning of the word (Rom. 14:22), Hast thou faith? that is, clearness is such a particular, have it to thyself; that is, make your own private use of it without troubling others with the same. And we will see, that this spirit of contention, and the abounding of offense, have ever been …
“Now is it more just and safe that the strong should condecend to the weak, because that is within their reach, than that the weak should be driven up to the strong, which were to overdrive them” (Durham, p. 35).
“Thus Paul rather hazards upon what might follow upon his refusing to take wages than to take them, because taking is of itself more apt to give offense than refusing, and does not look so single-like, and there is not so easy access to vindicate that against clamorous mouths” (Durham, p. 29).
“For there is a great difference between displeasing and offending, as also between pleasing and edifying. For one may be displeased, and yet edified; well satisfied, and yet offended” (James Durham, Concerning Scandal, p. 2).