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Liturgy and Worship - Musical Exhortation
Written by Douglas Wilson   
Tuesday, June 29, 2010 6:45 am

I have been asked by a correspondent, a teacher, how he might best study "how to motivate young men of middle and high school age to enjoy singing well to the glory of God." Not knowing of any resources that are aimed directly at that topic specifically, I thought to jot down a few thoughts here.

1. It is more important that your boys grow up masculine than that they grow up musical. You don't necessarily have to choose, but if you have to choose, you should know which way to go, and should go that way without hesitation. It is important that your son know that you are of one mind on that point. Start by prioritizing the whole question rightly.

2. We learn by imitation, and imitation involves persons and personal characteristics. If the music master is not the kind of man that the boys would like to be when they are grown, then they are generally going to avoid the musical pursuits that this man is offering to train them in. If the boys ahead of them in whatever discipline it is (violin lessons, piano or voice lessons, etc.) are admirable to the younger boys, then they will want to catch up with them. If not, then they won't. If they don't want to grow up into that, hectoring them about it will only make them identify musical accomplishment with effeminacy more strongly. The fact that it is a false identification should be a good reason to not chase the boys into that false identification.

3. Certain kinds of music appeal to boys, so musical selection is a big deal. If a boy has declined to join the chorus elective at your school, you want the Christmas concert to be a time when regret has him by the throat (whether he admits it or not) rather than a time when waves of relief are washing over him. If every tra-la-la from the stage is matched by silent te Deums and hosannas in your son's heart, you have identified a big part of your problem. Every performance is a recruiting event, and the foundation of each recruiting event is the music selection. Performance and concert structure and length are important as well, but start with musical selections that will attract those you want to attract. Don't go fishing for mountain trout by putting bacon on the hook. Or, at any rate, if you do, don't be disappointed by your results.

 

4. Musical accomplishment is a matter of discipline. If your son is undisciplined in every area of his life except for this one, it will not fare well for him in this one alone. Discipline should not be an alien concept.

5. Don't turn up your nose at musical accomplishment acquired off the grid in a garage band somewhere. Recruit the drummer to play timpani for you. You don't turn over the leadership of musical reformation to the garage bands, but don't be too proud to recognize the resource.

6. If your assigned task is a musical program at school, recognize that there are two other places where musical culture is formative -- family and church. These are difficult times because most churches have capitulated on the subject of music, and in many places the only place where musical standards are being maintained is in particular homes and families. But the point here is that musical reformation has to take place across the board -- in church first, then in school, and then in families. Musical training these days is holed up in families like it was a beleagured refugee. Keeping all these things in mind, and the other principles noted here, none of this is going to change without dedicated funding. Musicians -- who understand all these principles -- need to eat, and need to provide for their families. They should be provided for well. The task of musical reformation cannot be left in the hands of hobbyists and volunteers.

7. The growth of rock n' roll, and the paucity of rocker chicks in that realm, should really tell us something. Instead of sniffing at the popularity of rock (o tempora! o mores!), we need to cultivate some humility at this point. We have to recognize that rock is vastly superior to more cultivated forms of music in at least one area -- its ability to attract boys to music. If your theory about this is that rock does it all with half-naked girls, you haven't thought about the subject nearly enough. The immorality of rock culture, and the inanity of the baby, baby, baby school of high poetry, are certainly worthy of our notice. But at the end of the day, they know how to do something that accomplished musicians and musical programs usually do very poorly. In the credit where credit is due department, we should be willing to try to learn what that is.



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Chuck Shanks  Tuesday, June 29, 2010 7:34 am
I think one part of the appeal of rock to some young men is simply that it is comprised of manly sounds... like crashing hammers, marching armies, racing cars, automatic guns, clanging swords, explosions, victorious war cries, chain saws ripping through sheet metal, or some strangely choreographed construction site with heavy earth moving equipment on the brink of disaster, etc.

Yes, of course it can be distorted and perverted, and generally screwed up in a hundred different ways... but there is something about it screaming to be distinctly male... something strong and fierce and warrior like.

And, should it surprise us then that it all attracts a perverted feminine following?


Robert Seward  Tuesday, June 29, 2010 9:03 am
You need to add rap to that list. It is a masculine music form, for the most part, a dark, sinful masculinity to be sure, but a real masculinity. With so many fatherless boys in this country, who are desparate for masculine leadership, I honestly think that the White boys that listen to rap and the girls who follow them, are partially being assimilated into rap culture. It isn't about the middle class white kid who is playing rapper. The issue is the poor white kid who is growing up on welfare has at least as much in common if not more so with the poor Black rapper kid than he does with middle class white America. Why wouldn't he be assimilated? Eminem is a great example of such a person. Listen to the lyrics of his song, Cleaning Out My Closet sometime. Unfortunately, he is not an isolated case.
Rob Steele  Tuesday, June 29, 2010 9:45 am
I can't find them anywhere but you remind me of some very funny performances of pretentiously macho music played in inappropriate styles. Born to be wild in bluegrass, for example and L. A. Woman in klezmer. Or anything on kazoo.

Then there's this: http://is.gd/d918M
Jane Dunsworth  Tuesday, June 29, 2010 10:00 am
Gee, thanks, Robert. I was planning on USING those brain cells today. Now, they're gone. :P
oldfatslow  Tuesday, June 29, 2010 10:47 am
Rob Steele,

I refuse to hit
the play button.
I don't want that
mind worm crawling
in my head forever.

ofs
Griff  Tuesday, June 29, 2010 11:02 am
There is somewhat of a resurgence of Calvinistic rap. This one is even Piper-esque: "Don't Waste Your Life by Lecrae. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n0_pzJfrqiU
oldfatslow  Tuesday, June 29, 2010 11:07 am
Doug,

I'm not sure that making
an either/or of music and
masculinity works.

David could kill lions,
bears, and giants with
rocks and sticks and still
find time to write lullabies
for King Saul. He went on to
write war chants, liturgical
ditties, and introspective
confessional pieces. I
don't think he ever suffered
from guys calling him
sub-masculine.

My wonderment is how music
came to be viewed as having
effeminate tendencies. Is
it because our churches
(see _Feminization of American
Culture_) became havens
for the limp-wristed and
the manly men went into
pioneering or business?

[There's more to be asked
and said, but I've run
out of words. I hope you
do more on this subject.
There is great need for
kids to learn music. My
childhood was devoid of
it and I regret it.]

ofs
Tim Prussic  - Thought Needed  Tuesday, June 29, 2010 3:47 pm
Those points are interesting, Pastor. So are the comments. When I was a boy, I was in a world-class boys choir (and I loved it), but I also listened to heavy metal and rap. I still find Led Zeppelin massively compelling, and that is with Robert Plant half dressed (not very compelling, I might add). We need to give a whole lot of thought to the masculine aspects of music.

We also have to avoid being all high-brow in our assessment of popular music. I knew classical guitarists in college that couldn't accompany a group of their friends singing a Beatles tune. Too often refined music misses the human aspect of music, certainly when when the musicians are pretentious.
Stephen Helvey  - Music matters  Saturday, July 03, 2010 5:45 am
:)
As an admirer of your work and the father of a 14 year old male classical violinist, I found this blog more than a little perplexing.

1. There is no choice to be made that I can see.
2. Picking a compatible teacher for your child is always necessary. Role models are good as well as my son has them and is one.
3. As we learn by imitation it only makes sense that my son would find the music that his parents enjoy appealing.
Also if they never hear rock at home that would be helpful but more on that later.
4. Amen.
6. This looks out of order but I want to lump 5 & 7 together not to mention your order where the musical reformation takes place is out of order -- in families first, then in church, and then in school. By imitation the boy will cling to his father's values if he has his heart. Prov. 22:6.
5&7. Rock n Roll has to be avoided at all costs. The immorality is unavoidable due to the construction of the music regardless of the lyrics. It actually physically changes you and you are addicted to that heavy, syncopated beat. Even the "roll" in the name is a reference to fornication. I am not willing to give any credit because it is not due as you taught me Romans 13. We are to be called out and separate from the Philistines in our culture.
So much to say with so little space!